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Focusing Tip #847 – Parts Work – “This feeling doesn’t want to communicate with me…”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #847 – “This feeling doesn’t want to communicate with me…” When something you feel doesn’t reveal itself to you, perhaps it’s because it doesn’t feel safe. Read on… Last week, a reader wrote me this:: In most of my Focusing sessions, what I sense in my body is a part in my stomach that feels numb. I spend time with it, give it company, wonder what emotion it has and usually the rest of the session is spent there with not much…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #846 – Feeling Numb – “What if what I’m feeling is always the same?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #846 – Feeling Numb – “What if what I’m feeling is always the same?” If you feel something that doesn’t change, even with patient attention, what can you do? Read on… A Reader writes: In most of my Focusing sessions, what I sense in my body is a part in my stomach that feels numb. I spend time with it, give it company, wonder what emotion it has and usually the rest of the session is spent there with not much communication…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #845 – Past Trauma – “I get overwhelmed by strong emotions from trauma.”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #845 – Past Trauma – “I get overwhelmed by strong emotions from trauma.” What if you get overwhelmed by strong emotions that come from trauma? Read on… Linda writes: I easily get overwhelmed by my emotions, many of which come from places of trauma and are very powerful. I have appreciated the suggestion to listen to parts of me that let me know they are way too scared or otherwise distressed about me looking at those difficult emotions. Doing this can often…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #844 – Focusing and Therapy – “It feels stuck in my head.”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #844 – Focusing & Therapy – “It feels stuck in my head.” What can you do when your client has a hard time feeling in the body? Read on… A Reader writes: I had two clients this week who when I asked them to sense how all that feels they said something like “It feels stuck in my head.” Have you experienced that? I wondered if it meant they were struggling to drop down into the sense of their body. Dear Reader:…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #843 – Understanding Feelings – “How do I know if it’s a part or a felt sense?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #843 – Understanding Feelings – “How do I know if it’s a part or a felt sense?” Do you need to know if what you feel is a part, or a felt sense? Read on… Renan writes: I know that felt sense and parts are not the same, and even a part can have a felt sense, but I find it difficult to understand, and to figure out if I need to approach parts and felt senses differently. It gives me anxiety!…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #842 – Parts and Boundaries – “Do I ever give parts what they ask for?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #842 – Parts and Boundaries Do you ever give parts what they ask for? Read on… Alan writes: When we’re with a part and we ask what type of contact it wants, what if it says a hug or to hold hands? I’m confused with this because sometimes we don’t do what the part wants, but we do acknowledge that it wants it. So I’m wondering when we do what a part asks, and when we simply acknowledge it. Dear Alan: Imagine…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #841 – When the felt sense moves around the body
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #841 – When the felt sense moves around the body What if the person who is Focusing keeps moving awareness around from sensation to sensation? Read on… A Reader writes: I’m adding Focusing to my work with clients, often with great results. But one thing that happens I find disconcerting. The person starts to describe a sensation in one place in the body, and then suddenly that’s gone and there’s another one somewhere else. I don’t know whether to try to bring…
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Focusing Tip #840 – “A part of me keeps ruminating about hate groups”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #840 – “A part of me keeps ruminating about hate groups” If a part of you keeps worrying about scary futures, and it doesn’t help to tell it you are safe, what can you do? Read on… Illona writes: How can I work with a part that keeps ruminating with images of the hate groups that have been gaining ground in my country? I know the positive intention is to keep me safe but letting it know I’m safe now doesn’t seem…
Ann Weiser CornellRelationships: Finding an Empowered Response to a Difficult Situation
- by Ann Weiser CornellWe can pause and find an empowered response to a difficult situation… My student, Abigail, grew up with parents who had terrible fights. She’s determined not to repeat that in her own marriage. But it’s hard because…
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