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Anxiety, Overwhelm, and Stress: A Process to Find Calm
- by Ann Weiser CornellStrong, uncomfortable feelings like anxiety, stress, and anger can be overwhelming. But you can find your way to a calmer place when those feelings arise. Developing the capacity to be with any thought, emotion, or sensation in your awareness is the path to living a calmer life. When you bring…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #833 – “I struggle to accept the craziness of life”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #833 – “I struggle to accept the craziness of life” Are you trying to understand the contradictions and complexities of life? Read on… Matthias writes: There seem to be big why questions without answers in me. I fear being present because so much is happening in the present when we are really there and mindful. It is like a part of my brain can’t comprehend life. All concepts are too small. So maybe the question is how to we care for parts…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #832 – “I can’t find any felt sensations at all”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #832 – “I can’t find any felt sensations at all” Are feelings something you find, or something you wait for? Read on… Krys writes: I first came across Gendlin’s books years ago and found them revelatory. I could easily see the potential for them in myself and found some immediate benefits. Unfortunately a few years ago, upon becoming a parent, I became somewhat dissociative and am no longer able to ‘feel’ feelings very well at all. Sometimes I can sense a resistance…
Ann Weiser CornellUntangling® Musings: “I need to find a job”
- by Ann Weiser CornellAlexandra asks: I’ve been looking for a job for a long time but I can’t get myself on a straight course. Some days I feel really sure that I am worth having a job that brings me happiness. Other days there is a part saying I should be thankful to get a job at all and it doesn’t matter…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #831 – “I’m not feeling compassion toward myself”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #831 – “I’m not feeling compassion toward myself” What if the feeling of compassion toward yourself seems to be missing? Read on… Bernie writes: I’ve noticed that I’m saying the compassionate phrases that are built into the Focusing process, but I’m not actually genuinely feeling compassionate towards myself. Maybe I am expecting something of myself in the process that isn’t required… but I do know that I still feel unable to feel as relieved or empathized with from Focusing as I do…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #830 – “What if my felt senses disappear?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #830 – “What if my felt senses disappear?” What if your feelings disappear when you try to describe them? Read on… Hans-Jörg writes: For me it is sometimes difficult to stay with a feeling, just to feel without trying to describe it, when I go into describing I often lose contact with the feeling. Dear Hans-Jörg: That’s an interesting problem! Typically Focusing begins with inviting a felt sense of an issue or a situation or a decision… etc… and then describing the…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #829 – When you regret how you couldn’t show up in the past
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #829 – When you regret how you couldn’t show up in the past Are you filled with regret about how you behaved in the past? Read on… Matthias writes: When I make a step forward in my healing journey and have more clarity, I also get so much regret and guilt and wanting to change the past. I want to heal things that broke in relationships where I couldn’t show up how I knew would be best but was so triggered and…
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Focusing Tip #828 – Working with repressed trauma with no memories
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #828 – Working with repressed trauma with no memories Can you work with repressed trauma if you have no memory of what happened? Read on… Andrew writes: I have become aware of a time in my life (age 3-11) that I have virtually no recall of. I believe I have repressed trauma from those years that has impacted my life in countless ways. As this occurred some 60 years ago there is no one left to ask what happened… so I don’t…
Ann Weiser CornellUntangling Musings – Where do Parts come from?
- by Ann Weiser CornellIt’s January. We have been thinking about how things might be different this year–maybe you have too. You’re probably curious about when our Untangling book will be finished. Good news! It’s nearly done! We’ve worked on it intensively for the past three years. Would you like to read an excerpt? Here’s a section called “Where do Parts come from?”…
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