Ann, thank you so much for this wonderful video series. Just the right length. Your commitment and enthusiasm for the process is so inspiring. I am going to work with the seven powerful words. Best wishes, Gill
Thank you so much for this video. I feel it helps me a lot, and not only me, but my clients and people who are near me. If I live day by day with more calm, happiness and if I receive my feelings with more acceptance and curiosity, and wait for their message, I will be more happy and can live a possitive life. Thank you for sharing in a simple way, a lot of important and useful tips!!
Hi,
Thank you for this video. I joined a while ago on a friends request. I avoided this site because I didn’t know how it would help. But, I am happy for the e-mails. This video was just awesome!! I currently don’t have money to join certain resources. But, note that there is a very deep appreciation for the free resources you all provide. Thank you.
Hi Ann,
Thank you so much for your innovation, it is that ,that is so inspiring and valuable to me. I have being directing my clients to Focusing Resources for a long time , especially the ebook ..’Get bigger than what is bugging you.@ but it is your innovation as a pioneer in cyber that gives me the most encouragement to go further in the work. Thanks you for that. Love to both you and Barbara. best wishes ,Pauline . (Aka Alana Little…Little my married name … Alana my irish name.)
Hi, Ann,
The part of your talk this time that wowed me was the part about Drowning in the ocean v. sitting on the beach observing the ocean, calm or typhoon or any state of the ocean in between.
I have heard/read your descriptions of this shift in perspective many times over the past 20 years; for me, this one fit exactly, and I thank you for it.
Always with appreciation,
Oak
what more can i say but ‘thank you, thank you, thank you’. i have been in focusing for years and had somehow known i really felt a need to sort of refresh it all. then i find your emails with these videos, thank you. it really fits that need for now.
Thank-you so much for your work. It has helped me so much! God is so good. God always brings me what I need when I need it. You have been a real gift! Thank-you again.
Synchronicity is a wonderful thing. I woke up with a place that felt “too big, too much” dominating my inner experience so I sat with it for a while but was merged with it, I was not even able to notice that I had lost Self in Presence.
Then suddenly something in me remembered that late yesterday evening I had noticed that the email from you with this video had arrived. It was late then so I decided to leave it. But on remembering it this morning I immediately opened it and those 7 little words were just right. Just what was needed – I could say to this place that feels so, so bad “YOU CAN BE THE WAY YOU ARE – for as long as you need to be” and immediately I found Self in Presence and in so doing found real compassion and wanting to offer care for this place.
It is not this place has gone away, rather it is now I can start to befriend it. I look forward to your new book
Dear Ann
Thank you for the vibrancy and hope within your conveyance of the message “you can be the way you are”. There is such a ‘yes’ in it. I feel uplifted, cheered on from the sidelines.
thanks, Maggie
Ann, thank you for your work which has made a huge difference in my chronic trauma dissociation experience beginning with the 2011 mini-course, Get Bigger Than What’s Bugging You. I’d been meditating for a long time and doing daily mindfulness practices to try to break through the shut-down, but the first huge shift came in September 2011 with Get Bigger. I’ve been on several of the free teleseminars, especially the recent one on Untangling and have followed the evolution of your own presentation style which is peaking on high notes in these new videos. Sending love and gratitude from DC.
Dear Ann,
Thank you for creating the video “Tips for Challenging Times–7 Little Words”. I watched it yesterday, May 11th, and it couldn’t have come at a more desperately needed time for me. After watching the video, I read Barbara McGavin’s 1994 article “The ‘Victim’, the ‘Critic’ and the Inner Relationship: Focusing with the Part that Wants to Die”. This article speaks to my current experiences in a very empathetic way. I am very much aware of a “part” of me that just wants to shrink away and die. I am also aware of another “part” of me that tries to sooth and comfort this “part” through addictive behaviors.
I recently completed all four levels of focusing training with Lucinda Hayden and you. The interplay between the “part that is criticizing” and the “part that wants to die” has become really strong lately. I sense that I could use some focusing assistance beyond that what I’m currently getting through focusing alone. If in this moment, you could sense someone I could contact for this assistance, I would really appreciate the referral.
Hi Keith – I’ve been there myself so many times, that inner sense that what I’m going through needs me to have help and support from another person. And it sure sounds like what you’re going through is one of those times. Since you’ve been through the four Levels of our training you know how to do Focusing with a Focusing partner… but sometimes we know deep inside that we need help from more than a fellow student. That’s when one could turn to a professional Focusing guide. If you click on the menu item “Have a Session” at the top of this page, you will see more about how to work with me or with other highly recommended people.
Dear Ann,
Hello! This is the first video I watched, what a great idea! Thank you so much for creating it and sharing. I am excited to put the 7 words into practice, actually I started it already :-)… will send you my insights as I find them. With appreciation for all you do to help.
Hi Ann, these words and especially the extended version feel like ‘things finding their right place within’. For me it feels really important how I say these words, how I address myself using these words. It feels important that I really mean them when I say them. It feels useless and frustrating when I use them just to calm things down. And usually I need to spend some time in silence with these high stakes feelings before I give them permission to be.
Really greatfull for the sharing
Aglaia
Hi Aglaia – What a great addition! Yes, we need to say that the place in us that the words come from is really important. It doesn’t work if the words come from another anxious part of us that is just trying to calm things down. We can find the place in us that can say these words sincerely, really meaning it. Lovely!
This is just the most convenient way of sending you an email. I sat watching this video which ironically was very jerky because it was downloading more slowly than it should and cried. I learned to focus with you many years ago and have practiced it regularly. At the Summer School a couple years ago I moved into a whole new phase of my inner exploration and have spent the last two years moving way way forward. As I watched the video and cried I thought of how well I know what you were talking about and how much it has helped me but there is clearly more to go and watching this helped me with the latest piece of the onion I am pealing away. Thanks my dear. You are the person that has been most central to my journey. There have been many others who were very important but it is the tool you showed me that I think has been the most helpful.
My oh my Anne
Your loving , generous soul simply lept out of your video into my heart and soul!. Something became alive (newer and fresher ) than ever before. Something surfaced in me as I held your 7 words in combination with your words ” a Life Filled With
I realized in a flash the movement that has occurred in me toward ” a life filled with me” has in fact occurred by incremental shifts through Focusing since I came to know you over the past several years . The recognition was a wonderful gift indeed.
With love from a very grateful follower of the Creative Expressive YOU,!
Carol
Hi Carol – I feel excited and happy to hear that something in you came alive, newer and fresher than ever before! I don’t know if I ever used that phrase before that video, it just came to me. “A Life Filled With YOU!” It seems so right, doesn’t it?
I’ve just watched your video. I will try using “you can be the way you are” I used to do focusing with a trained facilitator. I lost that person over a year ago and have been finding focusing very difficult by myself. Focusing by myself doesn’t seem to work well for me. I have ADHD and maybe that contributes – I am easily distracted and maintaining attention and presence alone just isn’t successful. Do you have experience with others having this problem? What can help?
jo
Jo, I myself have this problem! Focusing by myself has always been a real struggle. The saving grace has been Focusing partnership. Without Focusing partners I never would have stayed with Focusing and we wouldn’t be having this conversation today! In our Focusing Training Program (Levels 1-4) we show in easy steps how to be a Focusing partner, and we help people find partners. Maybe that could help you?
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Ann, thank you so much for this wonderful video series. Just the right length. Your commitment and enthusiasm for the process is so inspiring. I am going to work with the seven powerful words. Best wishes, Gill
Thank you so much for these videos! They’re so healing and helpful! So very kind!
Ann, I know so many people who could benefit by saying just those little 7 words to whatever emerges within them….
Thank you for all you do, Kelly
Dear Ann,
Thank you so much for this video. I feel it helps me a lot, and not only me, but my clients and people who are near me. If I live day by day with more calm, happiness and if I receive my feelings with more acceptance and curiosity, and wait for their message, I will be more happy and can live a possitive life. Thank you for sharing in a simple way, a lot of important and useful tips!!
Silvia
Silvia, I love what you’re saying about calm, acceptance and curiosity. And yes, it spreads outward from each of us!
Hi,
Thank you for this video. I joined a while ago on a friends request. I avoided this site because I didn’t know how it would help. But, I am happy for the e-mails. This video was just awesome!! I currently don’t have money to join certain resources. But, note that there is a very deep appreciation for the free resources you all provide. Thank you.
Sincerely,
Divya Joseph
Hi Ann,
Thank you so much for your innovation, it is that ,that is so inspiring and valuable to me. I have being directing my clients to Focusing Resources for a long time , especially the ebook ..’Get bigger than what is bugging you.@ but it is your innovation as a pioneer in cyber that gives me the most encouragement to go further in the work. Thanks you for that. Love to both you and Barbara. best wishes ,Pauline . (Aka Alana Little…Little my married name … Alana my irish name.)
Thank you, Ann, for your transformative wisdom.
Nice. “You can be the way you are”. I’ll remember that. Again.
Thank you, Ann, for sharing YOU and your wisdom!
You are a precious gift to the world!
Highly appreciated,
John
This is the best video that I have ever seen you do. Very natural with powerful message. Thanks, Sharon
Thank you so much, everyone, for your warm and thoughtful comments! It’s been really great to hear from you today…
Hi, Ann,
The part of your talk this time that wowed me was the part about Drowning in the ocean v. sitting on the beach observing the ocean, calm or typhoon or any state of the ocean in between.
I have heard/read your descriptions of this shift in perspective many times over the past 20 years; for me, this one fit exactly, and I thank you for it.
Always with appreciation,
Oak
ann
what more can i say but ‘thank you, thank you, thank you’. i have been in focusing for years and had somehow known i really felt a need to sort of refresh it all. then i find your emails with these videos, thank you. it really fits that need for now.
maggie
Thank-you so much for your work. It has helped me so much! God is so good. God always brings me what I need when I need it. You have been a real gift! Thank-you again.
Hi Ann
Synchronicity is a wonderful thing. I woke up with a place that felt “too big, too much” dominating my inner experience so I sat with it for a while but was merged with it, I was not even able to notice that I had lost Self in Presence.
Then suddenly something in me remembered that late yesterday evening I had noticed that the email from you with this video had arrived. It was late then so I decided to leave it. But on remembering it this morning I immediately opened it and those 7 little words were just right. Just what was needed – I could say to this place that feels so, so bad “YOU CAN BE THE WAY YOU ARE – for as long as you need to be” and immediately I found Self in Presence and in so doing found real compassion and wanting to offer care for this place.
It is not this place has gone away, rather it is now I can start to befriend it. I look forward to your new book
Warmest Regards
Cathy x
Dear Ann
Thank you for the vibrancy and hope within your conveyance of the message “you can be the way you are”. There is such a ‘yes’ in it. I feel uplifted, cheered on from the sidelines.
thanks, Maggie
Ann, thank you for your work which has made a huge difference in my chronic trauma dissociation experience beginning with the 2011 mini-course, Get Bigger Than What’s Bugging You. I’d been meditating for a long time and doing daily mindfulness practices to try to break through the shut-down, but the first huge shift came in September 2011 with Get Bigger. I’ve been on several of the free teleseminars, especially the recent one on Untangling and have followed the evolution of your own presentation style which is peaking on high notes in these new videos. Sending love and gratitude from DC.
Hi Pam, I’m so grateful to hear that this work has been helpful to you. This makes me very happy! I really appreciate your sharing.
Dear Ann,
Thank you for creating the video “Tips for Challenging Times–7 Little Words”. I watched it yesterday, May 11th, and it couldn’t have come at a more desperately needed time for me. After watching the video, I read Barbara McGavin’s 1994 article “The ‘Victim’, the ‘Critic’ and the Inner Relationship: Focusing with the Part that Wants to Die”. This article speaks to my current experiences in a very empathetic way. I am very much aware of a “part” of me that just wants to shrink away and die. I am also aware of another “part” of me that tries to sooth and comfort this “part” through addictive behaviors.
I recently completed all four levels of focusing training with Lucinda Hayden and you. The interplay between the “part that is criticizing” and the “part that wants to die” has become really strong lately. I sense that I could use some focusing assistance beyond that what I’m currently getting through focusing alone. If in this moment, you could sense someone I could contact for this assistance, I would really appreciate the referral.
Thank you for taking time to read and respond.
Respectfully,
Keith
Hi Keith – I’ve been there myself so many times, that inner sense that what I’m going through needs me to have help and support from another person. And it sure sounds like what you’re going through is one of those times. Since you’ve been through the four Levels of our training you know how to do Focusing with a Focusing partner… but sometimes we know deep inside that we need help from more than a fellow student. That’s when one could turn to a professional Focusing guide. If you click on the menu item “Have a Session” at the top of this page, you will see more about how to work with me or with other highly recommended people.
Hello Ann,
Watching your Video is like reading your book:
clear, simple and then it naturally flows into my heart,
Your 7 words also speak “self empathy” very well,
Dear Ann,
Hello! This is the first video I watched, what a great idea! Thank you so much for creating it and sharing. I am excited to put the 7 words into practice, actually I started it already :-)… will send you my insights as I find them. With appreciation for all you do to help.
Hi Ann, these words and especially the extended version feel like ‘things finding their right place within’. For me it feels really important how I say these words, how I address myself using these words. It feels important that I really mean them when I say them. It feels useless and frustrating when I use them just to calm things down. And usually I need to spend some time in silence with these high stakes feelings before I give them permission to be.
Really greatfull for the sharing
Aglaia
Hi Aglaia – What a great addition! Yes, we need to say that the place in us that the words come from is really important. It doesn’t work if the words come from another anxious part of us that is just trying to calm things down. We can find the place in us that can say these words sincerely, really meaning it. Lovely!
This is just the most convenient way of sending you an email. I sat watching this video which ironically was very jerky because it was downloading more slowly than it should and cried. I learned to focus with you many years ago and have practiced it regularly. At the Summer School a couple years ago I moved into a whole new phase of my inner exploration and have spent the last two years moving way way forward. As I watched the video and cried I thought of how well I know what you were talking about and how much it has helped me but there is clearly more to go and watching this helped me with the latest piece of the onion I am pealing away. Thanks my dear. You are the person that has been most central to my journey. There have been many others who were very important but it is the tool you showed me that I think has been the most helpful.
Hi Chuck, I’m touched and grateful! Big hugs to you…
My oh my Anne
Your loving , generous soul simply lept out of your video into my heart and soul!. Something became alive (newer and fresher ) than ever before. Something surfaced in me as I held your 7 words in combination with your words ” a Life Filled With
I realized in a flash the movement that has occurred in me toward ” a life filled with me” has in fact occurred by incremental shifts through Focusing since I came to know you over the past several years . The recognition was a wonderful gift indeed.
With love from a very grateful follower of the Creative Expressive YOU,!
Carol
Hi Carol – I feel excited and happy to hear that something in you came alive, newer and fresher than ever before! I don’t know if I ever used that phrase before that video, it just came to me. “A Life Filled With YOU!” It seems so right, doesn’t it?
I’ve just watched your video. I will try using “you can be the way you are” I used to do focusing with a trained facilitator. I lost that person over a year ago and have been finding focusing very difficult by myself. Focusing by myself doesn’t seem to work well for me. I have ADHD and maybe that contributes – I am easily distracted and maintaining attention and presence alone just isn’t successful. Do you have experience with others having this problem? What can help?
jo
Jo, I myself have this problem! Focusing by myself has always been a real struggle. The saving grace has been Focusing partnership. Without Focusing partners I never would have stayed with Focusing and we wouldn’t be having this conversation today! In our Focusing Training Program (Levels 1-4) we show in easy steps how to be a Focusing partner, and we help people find partners. Maybe that could help you?