Having Your Voice in the World

Having Your Voice Course

Sometimes the urge to express yourself and the need to be safe seem to be at odds, and yet…

Do you feel held back from expressing yourself fully?

When you do express yourself, is there more you want to say than you’re getting across? When you see someone speak – or sing – in public, do you long for the freedom they seem to have?

You want to be more powerfully present in your life, to speak up, maybe even to sing out. In order to do that, you need to uncover the blocks that keep you stuck in patterns of silencing yourself. The problem is, sometimes those blocks are subtle and hard to find, right? Or they’re big and obvious but seem unwilling to budge? The good news is you don’t have to stay stuck. There are practical, simple steps you can take to identify those blocks and work with them so you can finally set your voice free.

Whether you want to speak publicly, sing from a stage, show up more fully at work, or speak and be heard in your relationships, Having Your Voice in the World can help!

What You’ll Learn

  • How to become more connected with your own voice
  • How to recognize and capitalize on skills and abilities you already have
  • How to become clearer about what is in the way of having your voice in the world
  • How to become gently aware of the underlying cause of blocks so you can begin to release them

Together we’ll explore and practice skills for accessing the fuller power of your voice – skills that may be new to you, and skills that tap into strengths you may not realize you already have.

At A Glance:

Who For anyone who wants more from their voice – literally or metaphorically.
What A five-week live online course for understanding what you want from your voice and releasing what may be in the way of having it.  > Full Course Description
Where Live Online Course – join us from anywhere in the world!
Why Most of us identify deeply with our voice (that’s why it’s so upsetting when it sounds weird on a recording). And we mean something profound and important when we speak of “having a voice” as a person in the world. Wouldn’t it be great to feel that you truly have a voice and that your voice represents you the way you want it to?

Learn 4 Powerful Practices To Free Your Voice

1

Pause and Sense

Let yourself notice what comes when you imagine having your voice more fully in the world.

2

Be Curious

Bring an open kind of attention to what is wanted and what is in the way.

3

Identify Inner Conflict

Recognize how many impulses come in conflicting pairs, like the desire to move forward and hold back

4

Shift What’s Stuck

Discover that both “sides” are actually pointing forward — not against each other. Freeing their energy frees your voice.

What’s Different and Special About This Course

You’ve been living and functioning in the world for a long time, right? And yet you may dislike or be troubled by your own voice.

You may feel more silenced, than anyone realizes. It may seem impossible to change something that has felt burdensome for so long. But your voice “lives” in your body, and the techniques we will use in this course are experiential and body-based too.

We’ll meet you where it matters, and we’ll create the conditions for shifts whose ripple effects can continue to free you more and more, well beyond our time together.


This Course Might Be For You If…

…You don’t like how you sound when you speak, but you feel stuck with it because it just “came with the package”

…You feel held back, like you can’t fully speak up or don’t have your whole voice in interactions with other people.

…You think change could be possible but you don’t know how, or the prospect is daunting… if not terrifying.

Need a Little Help Deciding?

Curious about this course? Watch the video for a  free one-hour webinar on Having Your Voice in the World where we will show you:

  • Take a fresh look at the different meanings of voice and how they inter-relate in your own life.
  • Experience how your own impulses can counteract and confound each other – such as the urge to express yourself and the need to be safe – when actually they could align with each other instead.
  • Discover that your physical voice and your metaphorical “voice in the world” both have their home in your body, and what that means for allowing them both to be more full.

The Power of Shifting from Silencing Yourself to Letting Your Voice Sing Out…

You can tell from my bio that everything voice-related has been a core passion of mine from the get-go. But why? Well, at least partly because of some lessons I grew up with about having a voice in the first place. On the one hand, people seemed to like it when I was chirping away cheerily like our canary; on the other hand, it had to be a pretty quiet sort of chirp or my father would give a wince that I can still see in my mind’s eye. On the one hand, being articulate was highly valued; on the other hand, if what you said was even a little bit at odds with my mother’s opinion of anything then it went simply unheard, as if you had no voice at all.

I actually became a professional singer, but the first time I stood up as a soloist in front of a whole orchestra I thought, “Oh my heavens! I am going to have to be loud now.” That thought silenced me completely for several long seconds. Fortunately, the orchestra was still tuning up. Then I got just plain mad, on behalf of my young self and of silenced people everywhere, and so I sang my heart out on their behalf. That was years ago. I’ve spent those years becoming freer in my ability to express myself and practicing how to help others do the same.

About Your Teacher

Marcella Calabi helps people find their voice and live from it. A certified Focusing professional, she has had a consulting practice called Clarityworks since 1998, helping people get unstuck with decision-making, communication and relationship strategy, and conflict resolution. She is also a classical singer and has been teaching voice and self-actualization through voice for over 30 years. Her work is inspired by several meanings of “voice” and how they overlap and affect each other: our physical voice and the self it expresses, the voice of our personhood manifested in word and action, and the inner voices that influence us as we make our life choices.

Marcella’s training and certification in Focusing was with Ann Weiser Cornell and Barbara McGavin (Inner Relationship Focusing). Committed to being a “Focusing polyglot,” she has also taken courses with Robert Lee (Domain), Evelyn Pross (TAE) and Karen Whalen (WholeBody Focusing).

Do you long for your voice to be more fully present in your life? We Can Help Get You There…

Register for Having Your Voice in the World

Practice the Exercises & Skills Anywhere, Anytime

Discover How to Unleash the Power of Your Voice

This workshop is not currently scheduled. Please contact us if you are interested in being informed when this workshop goes on the schedule.

Can’t make this time? You can register and participate by listening to recordings of the course each week at a time that works with your schedule. But you won’t be eligible for CE units.

Additional Information

How Online Courses Work

We use Zoom, an online video conference platform, to connect you to other students and the teacher. Before the class starts you will receive a Zoom link to use each time the class meets. You can join us via your camera-equipped computer, tablet, or smart phone. Prefer not to be on video? You can turn off your camera. Don’t want to call via computer? You can call in by phone. Zoom is free and easy to use. You will be able to sign on in advance to make sure you can access it, but we’ve had very few problems with it. Students also receive access to a private webpage where course materials can be found.

Prerequisite

There is no prerequisite for this course. All are welcome.

Continuing Education Credit & Course Completion Certificate

Course meets the qualifications for 10 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. Focusing Resources, CAMFT Approved CE Provider #62524

Focusing Resources is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs. Focusing Resources maintains responsibility for this course and its content.

There is a $25 administrative fee for CE units. Course completion certificates are awarded at the end of the course upon completion of all requirements and the course evaluation. (If you don’t want CE units but would like a completion certificate, the $25 fee does still apply.)

Eligibility for CE units requires at least 80% live attendance. If you miss a class, it must be made up.

Cancellations, Changes & Refunds

Up to 5 days before the first day of class: We will refund your course fee less a $35 cancellation fee. Avoid the cancellation fee by applying the entire course payment towards a future class. Changing your registration to a later offering of the same course must also occur 5 days prior to the beginning of class.

Cancellations received 4 days or fewer before class begins: No refund. Changing your registration within this window results in a $75 fee.

When Something Doesn't Go As You'd Hoped...

We are always open to discussing experiences with our courses that didn’t work for you or didn’t go the way you expected. Depending on the circumstances, you may want to email your course instructor, the staff member in charge of your course, or Ann Weiser Cornell. Email addresses for all these people will be supplied on registration. We will work with you to find a way to meet your needs.

So is this going to be about actual speaking/singing voice, or about expressing oneself in general?

It’s going to be about whatever meaning of the phrase “have my whole voice” draws you to this class… because those things all come together in a core way that we will address.

Wait a minute, am I gonna have to sing???

No. But we might create a space in which it would be safe to consider why that worries you so much! Big smile! And if that’s not your interest then it won’t come up for you at all.

Do I need to know Focusing? Or if I’m already an advanced Focuser, will beginners hold me back?

The course will not actually teach Focusing, so you will be able to take advantage of whatever skill you have, to work at your leading edge.

Is there any kind of homework? Time needed between the classes?

No homework is required. If you choose, you can make use of our exercises on your own, in your Focusing partnership or solo practice, for faster progress.