Healing from Regret, Disappointment, and Loss
A 3-week live, online course with Ann Weiser Cornell
Are you finding it hard to get over a painful loss?
Are you burdened with regret over past choices?
Do you long to find a way to feel hopeful again?
If so, I’ve created a new course just for you.
Pain is inevitable, but suffering is not.
Hard things happen. Some of them happen to us with no choice and no warning, leaving loss behind. Other times we had a choice… but it seems we made it wrong, because things are harder now.
Loss is already hard… loss of a career, loss of a loved one, loss of our physical powers. Regret can amplify loss, making it even harder to bear.
When faced with regret, disappointment, and loss, we need a way to rebuild hope without denying what happened. We need a way to be kind to our painful feelings without getting lost and sunk in them. We need a way to access our resilience so we become stronger at the broken places.
At A Glance
For anyone impacted by regret, disappointment, or loss, who wants to feel hopeful again.
A three-week live online course for accessing resources, building strength and resilience, and freeing ourselves from the pain of regret and loss. Full Course Description
Live Online Course – join us from anywhere in the world!
Because we can lose touch with our inner resources in the face of loss, and yet those resources are still there… and we can be stronger at the broken places.
You can be strong without being hard. You can be the kind of strong that has tenderness at its core.
Are you finding it hard to get over a painful loss?
That could be the loss of a person, the loss of a home or job, or the loss of your powers after an illness or injury. It’s natural to mourn after a loss. But sometimes the low feeling hangs on, long after we would have expected it to lift.
Are you burdened with regret over past choices?
Regret is one of the most painful emotions I know. And when regret is paired with loss, the two together can be debilitating. We keep replaying what happened, trying to get it to come out another way. Self-blame and self-doubt make this all even more painful.
Pain is inevitable but suffering is not.
It turns out it’s not so much what happened that drags us down, but rather what we made of what happened. What it means about me (“I am unlucky”) or what it means about what the world is like (“The world is out to get me”). Beliefs like these become blocks that get in the way of feeling our natural joy and resilient life energy.
You can draw on inner (and outer) resources you didn’t even know you had.
In this course, I will be showing you a process for rebuilding hope after loss and disappointment and regret, by drawing on inner and outer resources that you might not even know you have. I will show you how to be strong without being hard. This is the kind of strength that has tenderness at the core… and you’ll learn why it’s the strongest kind of all.
No matter how long ago the loss happened, you can still shift how it feels now.
I know about loss. In 1999 I lost my sister and my brother to cancer in one month. And I know about regret. I wasn’t with my sister when she died, even though I wanted to be, because of a decision I made on too little information. For many years afterward, I was burdened by the idea that I should have made a different choice. Now, when I think of my sister, I only feel a gentle sadness and love.
As you get stronger, your anxious parts get calmer.
It can be hard to get past loss and regret if anxious parts of us want to shut us down, believing we can’t handle the pain. Other anxious parts may be afraid about how long this pain will last, and even what it means about your worth as a person. As you access your inner resources and build your inner strong self, these anxious parts calm down. The past loses its hold on you, and the present has more possibilities.
You can experience hope again… and joy… and your own life energy.
“Life wants to live,” Gene Gendlin said. Your natural life energy is waiting eagerly to emerge, like young flowers in the springtime. The way to feel it again is not through denial, but through acknowledgment and inner Presence. This experience of life energy isn’t forced, but emerges naturally and then carries you forward.
Join me in this course where I’ll show you:
- Six specific ways to access inner resources of strength and resilience
- How to increase your self-compassion while working through regret
- A powerful process for rebuilding hope and accessing the unquenchable spirit that still lives at your core
This course could be right for you if you:
- would like to feel more peace around past choices or experiences
- know that regret, disappointment, and loss are affecting your life now and you’d like that to change
- are tired of trying to tell yourself that “everything happens the way it’s supposed to” or “no use crying over spilled milk” and having it not work
About Your Guide
Ann Weiser Cornell, PhD, is the co-developer (with Barbara McGavin) of Inner Relationship Focusing. Ann learned Focusing in 1972 from its developer, Eugene Gendlin, and was his close friend and colleague to the end of his life. Ann has written several definitive books on Focusing, including The Power of Focusing: A Practical Guide to Emotional Self-Healing, and Focusing in Clinical Practice: The Essence of Change. She has taught Inner Relationship Focusing around the world since 1980, and is a past president of the Association for Humanistic Psychology.
“We can’t change the past, but we can change what it means to us. And in a way that is forgiving and loving toward ourselves as well.”
– Ann Weiser Cornell
Are You Ready to Rebuild Your Sense of Hope?
We Can Help Get You There…
Enroll for Your Course Here
Curious about this course? Listen in to a one-hour webinar on Rebuilding Hope, where you’ll learn:
- the one big reason why regret hangs on
- two ways to access your resilience that you can use any time
- how to experience the life energy that lives underneath your pain
(If you can’t make the time of the webinar, please register anyway, and we’ll send you a recording link on the next day.)
- Randi Love"Rebuilding Hope allowed me to be in touch with a recent belief that I can't trust myself to make good decisions. Somehow this belief was lying under another very fundamental belief I took on as a small child - that I was responsible for my mother's depression, alcoholism, and rage. During the course, there was a moment when we were instructed to ask "What feels afraid to hope again?" I found a sense grief and aloneness coming from this little girl who felt so responsible for her mother's unhappiness. As I stayed with her, the words came, "This is not true." As in I'm not solely responsible for other people's lives. Now that the course is done, I have more ability to pause and turn inward. I trust the serendipity of my life moving forward, "filling-itself-in." I'm getting so much better at listening to my body signals when I get hijacked and I know what to do when that happens. I've felt more confident about making big decisions like buying a home with my significant other (after 9 years of a trans-Atlantic/trans-continental relationship) and moving closer to my adult daughter. And I'm more aware of my desire for real, healthy connections."
- Maria Vetluzhskih"The Rebuilding Hope course helped me see the whole idea of what happened to me, how it affected me and what I have now. I'm not so afraid of the future. I know that if something leaves my life, something else will come instead. And that gives me another huge gift - the Feeling of Absolute Freedom."
- Michaela J."The Rebuilding Hope course helped me become more in touch with hurt feelings over an old, painful loss. I also became aware of 'missing resources' from that time (things I didn't have but needed back then). Now, I feel more inner peace and clarity over that loss."
How Online Courses Work
We use Zoom, an online video conference platform, to connect you to other students and the teacher. Before the class starts you will receive a Zoom link to use each time the class meets. You can join us via your camera-equipped computer, tablet, or smart phone. Prefer not to be on video? You can turn off your camera. Don’t want to call via computer? You can call in by phone. Zoom is free and easy to use. You will be able to sign on in advance to make sure you can access it, but we’ve had very few problems with it. Students also receive access to a private webpage where course materials can be found.
There is no prerequisite for this course. All are welcome.
Continuing Education Credit & Course Completion Certificate
Course meets the qualifications for 6 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. Focusing Resources, CAMFT Approved CE Provider #62524
Focusing Resources is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs. Focusing Resources maintains responsibility for this course and its content.
There is a $25 administrative fee for CE units. Course completion certificates are awarded at the end of the course upon completion of all requirements and the course evaluation. (If you don’t want CE units but would like a completion certificate, the $25 fee does still apply.)
Eligibility for CE units requires at least 80% live attendance. If you miss a class, it must be made up.
Cancellations, Changes & Refunds
Up to 14 days before the first day of class: Just let us know and we'll refund your course fee. Or you can choose to apply the entire course fee towards a future class with us.
Cancellations received 13 days or fewer before class begins: No refund, sorry.
When Something Doesn't Go As You'd Hoped...
We are always open to discussing experiences with our courses that didn’t work for you or didn’t go the way you expected. Depending on the circumstances, you may want to email your course instructor, the staff member in charge of your course, or Ann Weiser Cornell. Email addresses for all these people will be supplied on registration. We will work with you to find a way to meet your needs.
Do I need to attend every class meeting?
You can enroll in this course and listen to the recordings that are available 1-2 days after each class meeting. We call this remote attendance. Please Note: If you attend remotely, you are ineligible for CEUs.
Is this a course with partnership practice?
No, partnerships are not available for this course.
Tell me more about the classroom environment and how course content is provided?
Sure. This course is taught using an online video conference system called Zoom. You’ll receive all the details you need to join us via Zoom prior to the first class meeting. You’ll also receive a private class webpage where homework assignments and class recordings can be found. Participants will be able to communicate via an online forum on the private class webpage.