Living a Focusing Life – Ann’s Blog

Focusing Tip #779 – “I’m late for everything. Do you have a tip for that?” Do you wish you were better at being on time? Read on… Carol writes: Last week you gave a tip to someone whose partner is always late. What if you are the person who is always late? Because I am that person. Even though Focusing is very valuable and helpful, I’m late for my Focusing appointments. I tend to be late to everything! Do you have a Tip for…

Focusing Tip #775 – “I really want this part of me to change.” What can you do when a part of you is blocking you from living your best life? Read on… Paul writes: I’ve heard you recommend saying to parts that they can stay the way they are as long as they need to. I’m thinking of a part that has been particularly active lately. It keeps me from living my best life. It keeps me in a state of dissociation, for periods.…

Focusing Tip #774 – Focusing with feelings about climate change How can you face painful feelings about the biggest threat to existence? Read on… A Reader writes: I am deeply concerned about climate catastrophe. I’ve worked on how this resonates with my past (which it does) and I’ve spent time on how I can find hope in despair. But I feel there is more. I want to explore what it might be like to live on a planet that is dying. I want to…

Focusing Tip #773 – How to respond if a friend is suffering How do you express sympathy for a person having a hard time without getting them even more upset? Read on… A Reader writes: I nearly lost a friend recently because I expressed my sympathy in the “wrong” way. I was just trying to help but I guess she heard it as some kind of criticism and pushed back on me. We got past it, but I’m wondering… do you have a good…

Focusing Tip #772 – What’s especially good about feeling good? “Do I say hello to something in me feeling joy? Read on… Kim writes: I’ve been practicing your method of turning toward my anxious feelings with a gentle hello. I said hello to something in me that was feeling anxious about a plane trip, and wow, that brought so much relief. But then I wondered… What if I’ve got a strong good feeling, like joy? Do I say hello to something in me feeling joy?…

Focusing Tip #770 – Inner Relationship Focusing with longing for connection How do you get a felt sense of something you wish you could feel? Read on… Clara writes: I often feel, with my mother, that there is some emotional connection that I wish were there, but it’s not. The connection I am longing for is not available. I’m not sure how to do Focusing with this. How do I get a felt sense of something I wish I could feel? Dear Clara: Ah,…