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Focusing Tip #839 – “Can I follow my body’s impulses to move?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #839 – “Can I follow my body’s impulses to move?” What if you have a burst of energy when you’re Focusing, and you want to move? Read on… Dhruv writes: When I do Focusing, often it feels that a sudden burst of energy has released and it does not feel very comfortable. There is a very strong urge to move my body, to stretch my arms and legs, twist my core. My question is, while I’m Focusing, if I have a very…
Ann Weiser CornellRelationships: What We Can Learn From Our Criticisms of Others
- by Ann Weiser CornellOur criticisms of others can be a deep well of self-understanding and change. Especially in our close relationships. Here is someone you love… and yet they drive you crazy because they… leave their socks on the floor… don’t listen… can’t keep track of their keys… Oh, the list is endless! It’s not my department to suggest how you might talk to that other person about what is bothering you. What I find fascinating is how I can use…
Ann Weiser CornellUntangling Musings: How to tell if you need more Self-in-Presence
- by Ann Weiser CornellHow to tell if you need to cultivate Self-in-Presence — right now! In the midst of life it can be hard to tell if you’re lost your Self-in-Presence and have gotten “Parts-y” instead. Once you recognize that a Part has taken over, there are some things you can do to cultivate more Self-in-Presence (see below). But recognizing that isn’t…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #838 – “My felt senses aren’t new or fresh”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #838 – “My felt senses aren’t new or fresh” Are you getting stuck because a part of you doubts what you feel? Read on… Yun writes: I have something I would like to ask, it’s about the process feeling stuck. There’s a part of me that doesn’t trust or believe what I sense or feel with my felt sense. It feels that this felt sense showed up before already and it is not new or fresh. It says, “You are just repeating…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #837 – “How do I trust that I can hold all the feelings that may come?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #837 – “How do I trust that I can hold all the feelings that may come?” Might getting in touch with feelings be too much for you? Read on… A Reader writes: When we are journeying internally to bring to surface feelings that have been packed away for many years, how do we trust that we can hold all that will surface? Dear Reader: That’s exactly the question that Barbara McGavin and I set out to answer when we created Inner Relationship…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #836 – Do we need to integrate our parts?
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #836 – Do we need to integrate our parts? What happens to parts once we contact them? Read on… A Reader writes: I appreciated hearing you talk about Inner Relationship Focusing, and working with parts. Could you talk about the idea of integrating parts once they are identified, understood, and known? Dear Reader: I have never seen the need to integrate parts! “But wait,” you ask— “Does that mean that parts remain as they are, as parts, unintegrated in the whole self?”…
Ann Weiser CornellAnxiety, Overwhelm, and Stress: Returning to Your Calm Steady Center
- by Ann Weiser CornellWhen stress levels are up and calm…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #835 – “I am the only one in my family who listens…”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #835 – “I am the only one in my family who listens…” What if the people in your family don’t show any interest in you or your feelings? Read on… Cat writes: I enjoyed your 21 Days To Better Boundaries book. My question is: Are there boundaries related to conversation? I find conversations with my family of origin tend to be very one-sided. It seems it is an unspoken rule that I am the one who listens, who asks questions, who provides…
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Focusing Tip #834 – “I have a constant background noise of tension”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #834 – “I have a constant background noise of tension” Can you do Focusing with something that’s like constant internal tension? Read on… Krys writes: I sense that Focusing could help me, but when I try to feel my feelings, I just get a constant ‘background noise’ of internal tension. My whole body feels like it’s a tense bag of electrical impulses firing uncontrollably and constantly. Oddly, even though it is intense, it’s so ‘background’ that I can’t really ‘feel’ it in…
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