Focusing Tip #642 – “I sabotaged my life…”
-Focusing Tip #642 – “I sabotaged my life…” If you feel that you sabotaged your life, it might mean that a younger part of you needs your compassion. Read on… A Reader writes: I have a longing to help people. But I sabotaged my life to the point that this seems impossible. I also have a longing to find a partner who really loves me… but I don’t love myself… so this seems impossible as well. Can I use Focusing to learn to love…
Focusing Tip #641 – “I feel my emotions easily but I’m not so connected to my body”
-Focusing Tip #641 – “I feel my emotions easily but I’m not so connected to my body” What if you feel your emotional states easily, but it’s hard to feel your body? Read on… Gene writes: When I look inside, I am used to looking for emotion, not sensation. I can sense fairly quickly if I’m angry, or sad, or lonely, or tired. Your method focuses on searching for body sensations, which I find difficult to do. Is it OK to simply sense my…
Focusing Tip #640 – What good is it to stay with a feeling of longing?
-Focusing Tip #640 – What good is it to stay with a feeling of longing? Could your longing for a past partner bring you something other than just sadness and regret? Read on… A Reader writes: I was invited to focus on my longing… but my longing went immediately to an ex-partner whom I have missed incredibly over the last two years despite my rational mind knowing it was a good decision for us to separate. A little voice in my head appeared that…
Focusing Tip #639 – “Can I make progress with Focusing in 50 minute sessions?”
-Focusing Tip #639 – “Can I make progress with Focusing in 50 minute sessions?” What if you’re distracted and feel rushed in therapy sessions because there’s not enough time to go deep? Read on… Dorine writes: I have been working with a therapist who introduced me to Focusing. The Focusing had helped me to connect with my inner child who has needed acknowledging, reconnecting, healing, me feeling her presence, etc., as a result of childhood physical and emotional trauma I experienced. Focusing has been…
Focusing Tip #638 – “Sometimes I need to slow down”
-Focusing Tip #638 – “Sometimes I need to slow down” Are the life changes coming so fast you feel the need to slow things down? Read on… Mark writes: So, I’ve been doing Focusing for, I think, 6 months to a year now. And I’ve really delved deeply into it, pretty quickly. As a result, gosh, there have just been so many life-changing benefits. My whole life has changed for the better, even though I’m now dealing with a lot of tough feelings that…
Focusing Tip #637 – Looking back and looking forward
-Focusing Tip #637 – Looking back and looking forward Dear Friends: The days are short… holidays are in the air… and I want to take a moment to share with you a personal message about how I’m feeling and what I’m looking forward to in the year to come. I’m ending the year of 2018 filled with both sadness and hope. The heartbreaking scenes at the border, the almost daily mass shootings, the shocking climate reports… these tragedies show me how far we humans…
Focusing Tip #636 – “I need to find out the meaning of my felt sense.”
-Focusing Tip #636 – “I need to find out the meaning of my felt sense.” Does it bother you when you have a feeling and you don’t know what it means? Read on… Jael writes: Sometimes I have a body feeling, maybe a felt sense, and I have another part of me that wants to understand where it comes from. This one is pretty insistent, it needs to find a meaning. And then I hear still another part saying, “OK, but might Focusing allow…
Focusing Tip #635 – “This inner message is not my own…”
-Focusing Tip #635 – “This inner message is not my own…” What do we do with those ‘helpful’ messages from other people that show up in our thoughts? Read on… Michelle writes: Often when I focus, there will be different parts of me that I will say hello to and listen to. But every once in awhile I’m aware of a voice with a particular message that seems as though it is “associated” with me but not a “part” of me. It seems as…
Focusing Tip #634 – “I can’t tell what gives my life meaning.”
-Focusing Tip #634 – “I can’t tell what gives my life meaning.” Do people tell you that you’re supposed to be able to feel what gives your life meaning, but you can’t feel it? Read on… A Reader writes: I finished school, but now I’ve got no idea what to do. My mother knows some Focusing, and she is saying I can feel what I am meant to do, or what gives my life meaning, but I don’t. I can’t get in touch with…
Focusing Tip #633 – “What if there is actually something to worry about?”
-Focusing Tip #633 – “What if there is actually something to worry about?” Does it help to acknowledge the worried part of you if there really is something to worry about? Read on… A Reader writes: You write that I should say Hello to a part of me that is worried. But what if there is really something to worry about? We’re very short on money since I’ve had to cut back on work to take care of my aging mother. I’m not getting…
