Love All of You

Even Your Anxious, Stressed, Overwhelmed Parts!

Life is heavy when self-judgment and stress take over. But what if those feelings weren’t enemies—what if they were guides?

Love All of You
Even Your Anxious, Stressed, Overwhelmed Parts!

Discover a Gentle, Proven Way to Find Emotional Freedom

Stop Feeling Stuck and
Start Feeling Good

Tired of being stressed, anxious, or just feeling “blah”? You’re not alone.

There’s a simple, powerful way to shift from self-judgment to self-compassion—so you can:

  • Embrace all parts of yourself, even the anxious and stressed ones
  • Develop emotional resilience and a deep sense of self-acceptance
  • Respond to life’s challenges with clarity and calm

How? Meet Inner Relationship Focusing (IRF), a simple yet powerful way to befriend your emotions instead of battling them. Instead of feeling controlled by stress or self-criticism, you’ll learn how to listen to your feelings with kindness and transform them into clarity and ease.

How will your life improve with Inner Relationship Focusing?

Change the Way You Experience Your Emotions—Change Your Life

Imagine what your life would feel like if:

Strong emotions no longer controlled you
You could handle stress with confidence and ease
Your inner critic became a source of support instead of self-doubt

This isn’t just healing. This is emotional revolution. And all of this is possible with Inner Relationship Focusing.

How It Works: The Simple Magic of Listening to Your Emotions

Think of your emotions like a friendly GPS. They’re not trying to mess you up – they’re actually trying to help you navigate life.

How does this actually work? It’s pretty simple:

  • Pay attention to how you’re feeling
  • Listen to your emotions (without judging them)
  • Learn to work with your feelings instead of fighting them

Proven Results: More Than Just a Method

Backed by

50+

Research Studies Linking Focusing with Positive Outcomes in Therapy

FOUNDED IN

1985

We Have Decades of Experience Helping People with Focusing

WE SUPPORT OVER

11,452

Practicing Inner Relationship Focusing for a Calmer Life


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Real Stories: How IRF Helps People Find Peace & Self-Compassion

A Brief explanation

What is Inner Relationship Focusing? A Gentle Method for Emotional Healing

IRF helps you listen to your feelings—not fight them—so you can:

  • Calm emotional triggers before they take over.
  • Develop self-compassion instead of battling inner criticism.
  • Create a deep sense of inner safety that helps you move forward in life.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by strong emotions like anxiety, sadness, or stress, you don’t have to stay stuck. IRF gives you a way to gently befriend your emotions and find relief.

Focusing starts with the familiar experience of feeling something in your body that is about what is going on in your life.

When you feel jittery in your stomach as you stand up to speak, or when you feel tightness in your chest as you anticipate making a crucial phone call, you are experiencing a body sensation that is meaningful.

If you’re like most of us, you try to get rid of those uncomfortable feelings. What probably doesn’t occur to you, unless you know Focusing, is to listen to the feeling and let it speak to you.

When you let the feeling speak to you, you are allowing yourself to be open to the depth and richness of your whole self. And when you listen to the feeling, it’s much more likely to relax, release, and let you go on with what you’re doing in a clear and centered way.

Whether you’re looking to reduce stress, heal from past traumas, or simply live a more fulfilling life, Focusing can help. It’s easy to use and can be practiced anytime, anywhere.

For more information about Inner Relationship Focusing, click here.

Ann Weiser Cornell was interviewed by Angelo Dilullo on his show “Simply Always Awake.” Tune in to hear about the origins of Focusing, as well as how it can help you love all of you, even your anxious, sad, stressed parts.
Experience the transformational Power of IRF

Featured Courses + Events for Emotional Healing and Personal Growth

Support for Stressful Times with Ann Weiser Cornell

Support for Stressful Times

Join Ann Weiser Cornell for a free, 30-minute, live webinar series

As these uncertain times continue to challenge us in unprecedented ways, our need for connection and emotional support is greater than ever. Our hope is that you’ll leave the webinar with a greater sense of resilience and some relief from the stressful feelings you might be having. And that you’ll know you are not alone.

Something special for our Advanced Focusers…

Untangling - Live Webinar

Join Ann and Barbara for a live, interactive webinar
April 1st from 10am – 11:00am Pacific Time.

  • Discover how Tangles form, why they get so stuck, and how they can change
  • Learn about the Five Powers of Presence that make Untangling possible
  • Experience what happens when you relate to your Tangle in a really different way

A replay will be available if you can’t join us live.

A collection of resources to help you

How Inner Relationship Focusing Can Help You with Anxiety, Self-Doubt, Overwhelming Feelings, and More

Get Calmer

Experience More Self-Acceptance


Many of us struggle with a lot of self-judgment, doubt, and anxiety. If you’d like to develop more self-compassion and self-acceptance, we have a number of resources that can help…

From Anxious, Sad, or Overwhelmed to Calm


If you get overwhelmed by strong feelings like anxiety, anger, stress, or sadness, we can help you find your way back to calm, ease, and happiness. Check out our page full of resources to help you work with your own overwhelming emotions.

Shift Your Experience with Inner Critics


Many of us experience a critical inner voice that undermines us at every turn. Sometimes that voice is hostile, other times it feels subtle and still cruel. But that can change… Check out our page full of resources to help you work with your own inner critics.

Start to Heal Emotional Trauma


Emotional trauma can lead to a great deal of self-criticism and self-blame. IRF helps you develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself. By developing this inner relationship, you can shift from self-criticism and self-blame to self-acceptance and self-compassion.

Relationships

Improve Your Relationships (with Yourself and Others)


When you learn Inner Relationship Focusing, you learn to love and accept yourself. As a result, other people aren’t so triggering. And you’ll learn to listen to people in new ways that will improve your relationships. Check out our page full of resources to help you with your relationships.

Man enjoying alone time and healthy boundaries

Create + Maintain Healthy Boundaries


Establishing healthy boundaries is a key step toward creating a happier life, but it can be hard, right? If you’d like some support understanding how to set and maintain better boundaries, check out our page full of resources.

If you experience emotional stress, you can benefit from Inner Relationship Focusing.

Our students agree!


“One of the strengths of Focusing is that you don’t need a therapist to work at a deep level, you have the process for yourself.”
Emma Gran
“Focusing helped me trust my process more and achieve the hoped-for results that always seemed out of reach with other programs.”
Darryl Commings
A Little Bit About Us

Meet Ann Weiser Cornell: Helping You Heal from Emotional Struggles

Hi! I’m Ann Weiser Cornell.

After more than 35 years teaching Focusing around the world, I hope to help even more people discover how to Get Bigger than What’s Bugging Them.

Why? Well, feelings are a part of life… but they often take us over and then we do things we later regret. Acting out your emotional triggers is expensive. It costs you time, sometimes even a job or a relationship. It doesn’t have to be like that.

You? You want to find a new way forward that doesn’t end in blowing up or withdrawing when you get hit by strong emotions. The power to change that pattern – permanently – can be yours.

As the co-founder of the Inner Relationship Focusing process, I’ve collected all the skills I’ve spent a lifetime honing and put them into online programs that fit into your everyday life and I look forward to sharing them with you.

Hope you’ll join us!