Inner Relationship Focusing & Inner Critics
Have you ever felt like you just can’t do anything right? Do you find you say things to yourself that you wouldn’t dare say to another person? It might help to know you’re not alone. We hear a lot from people who struggle with critical inner voices and we’re happy to share that we have many resources to help.
Facing the Inner Critic is a bit like doing battle with a fire-breathing dragon. It can appear fierce and destructive. It can feel like there’s a part of you that hates you. Or it can seem like a stern authoritarian that’s telling you how you should behave and feel.
But there’s a secret to the Inner Critic: No matter how fierce and stern it appears, it’s actually an anxious young part of you, and it does what it does to try to save you. It causes all that suffering not because it wants to, but because of how desperately anxious it is.
For many years we’ve been teaching this secret that Ann Weiser Cornell and Barbara McGavin discovered. It’s truly life-changing. When you can understand and treat an Inner Critic as a scared part of you, it relaxes. It lightens. It becomes an ally. It can even disappear completely.
On this page, you’ll find a collection of courses and resources to help you work with your Inner Critic.
“An inner criticizing part is any part of you that believes that you or another part of you has to change in order for you to be OK.”
— Ann Weiser Cornell, Radical Gentleness
5-Module Downloadable Audio Course
When your mind is a battleground and you’ve become your own worst bully, it can be hard to find peace… Are you ready to take it easier on yourself? Make your move from self-blame to inner acceptance with the Radical Gentleness audio course!
Loving the Unlovable:
Transforming Shame and Self-Blame
3-Module Interactive Video Course + Community
If you suffer from shame or lack of self-love, even occasionally, this course can help you shift how you view (and how much you appreciate) the most “unlovable” parts of yourself.$95.00
Finding Freedom From Inner Critics
21 Days of Online Video Trainings + Community
Life is much harder when you have an inner critic telling you to feel bad about who you are. Learn a loving, life-enhancing way to change how you experience self-criticism so you can move forward with more confidence, self-compassion, and inner peace.
Interactive Video-based Training + Online Community
This program will teach you the Focusing process and how to apply it to your daily life. Learn how to pause and get a larger sense of what’s happening in the moment, bring acceptance to the things you experience throughout your day (feelings, thoughts, etc), and apply the process of Focusing to inner critics, decisions, releasing blocks, and more.
Available at your convenience as soon as you register, from anywhere you can connect to the internet.
Helps with: stress | overwhelming feelings | making decisions | blocks to action | inner critic
Articles, Tips, and Videos About Inner Critics
Tips to help with Inner Critics and Increasing Self-Compassion and Self-Confidence
Focusing Tip #598 – If you have a negative core belief about yourself, how can you change it?
If you struggle with feelings like “something in me believes I don’t know anything” or “something in me believes I have nothing to say,” how do you go about changing them?
Focusing Tip #589 – Are you angry at the parts of you that have held you back from living your potential?
What can you do if you feel like critical parts have really been in charge of your life and you’d like some relief?
Focusing Tip #565 – “Do you have a hard time listening to your inner critic because you can’t hear it?”
Is it worth engaging with your inner critics when you believe you already know what they’re worried about?