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even the anxious, sad, stressed parts!

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Change your life.

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Even if the past feels far away, its effects can still impact you today. The good news is that by building an inner relationship, you can begin to heal and move forward.

Emotional trauma often brings self-criticism and blame. Inner Relationship Focusing helps you develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself, which helps shift self-blame and inner-criticism to self-compassion.

We offer many resources to support you in healing from the past.

Support for Stressful Times with Ann Weiser Cornell

Support for Stressful Times is Back

Join Ann Weiser Cornell for a free, 30-minute, live webinar series

As these uncertain times continue to challenge us in unprecedented ways, our need for connection and emotional support is greater than ever. Our hope is that you’ll leave the webinar with a greater sense of resilience and some relief from the stressful feelings you might be having. And that you’ll know you are not alone.

“We often think that change has to be difficult or challenging, but Inner Relationship Focusing has taught me it can be gentle and beautiful. The secret of Focusing is realizing you don’t have to change anything–you can just be with your emotions as they are. I cannot express how much this has enriched my life at a time in which it was greatly needed.”
Natalie Bryant,
IRF Student + Mindbody coach
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A Brief explanation

What is Inner Relationship Focusing?

Inner Relationship Focusing is a body-oriented process of self-awareness and emotional healing. It’s as simple as noticing how you feel–and then having a conversation with your feelings in which you do most of the listening.

Focusing starts with the familiar experience of feeling something in your body that is about what is going on in your life.

When you feel jittery in your stomach as you stand up to speak, or when you feel tightness in your chest as you anticipate making a crucial phone call, you are experiencing a body sensation that is meaningful.

If you’re like most of us, you try to get rid of those uncomfortable feelings. What probably doesn’t occur to you, unless you know Focusing, is to listen to the feeling and let it speak to you.

When you let the feeling speak to you, you are allowing yourself to be open to the depth and richness of your whole self. And when you listen to the feeling, it’s much more likely to relax, release, and let you go on with what you’re doing in a clear and centered way.

Whether you’re looking to reduce stress, heal from past traumas, or simply live a more fulfilling life, Focusing can help. It’s easy to use and can be practiced anytime, anywhere.

For more information about Inner Relationship Focusing, click here.


MORE THAN

50

research studies linking Focusing with positive outcomes in therapy

FOUNDED IN

1985

We have decades of experience teaching Focusing

WE SUPPORT OVER

11,452

people in over 60 countries living calmer, happier lives through practicing IRF


Ann Weiser Cornell was interviewed by Angelo Dilullo on his show “Simply Always Awake.” Tune in to hear about the origins of Focusing, as well as how it can help you love all of you, even your anxious, sad, stressed parts.

How Inner Relationship Focusing Helps You Love Yourself More

Get Calmer

Experience More Self-Acceptance


Many of us struggle with a lot of self-judgment, doubt, and anxiety. If you’d like to develop more self-compassion and self-acceptance, we have a number of resources that can help…

From Anxious, Sad, or Overwhelmed to Calm


If you get overwhelmed by strong feelings like anxiety, anger, stress, or sadness, we can help you find your way back to calm, ease, and happiness. Check out our page full of resources to help you work with your own overwhelming emotions.

Shift Your Experience with Inner Critics


Many of us experience a critical inner voice that undermines us at every turn. Sometimes that voice is hostile, other times it feels subtle and still cruel. But that can change… Check out our page full of resources to help you work with your own inner critics.

Start to Heal Emotional Trauma


Emotional trauma can lead to a great deal of self-criticism and self-blame. IRF helps you develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself. By developing this inner relationship, you can shift from self-criticism and self-blame to self-acceptance and self-compassion.

Relationships

Improve Your Relationships (with Yourself and Others)


When you learn Inner Relationship Focusing, you learn to love and accept yourself. As a result, other people aren’t so triggering. And you’ll learn to listen to people in new ways that will improve your relationships. Check out our page full of resources to help you with your relationships.

Man enjoying alone time and healthy boundaries

Create + Maintain Healthy Boundaries


Establishing healthy boundaries is a key step toward creating a happier life, but it can be hard, right? If you’d like some support understanding how to set and maintain better boundaries, check out our page full of resources.

We know life is harder when you get taken over by your emotions. We want more than that for you…

If you experience emotional stress, you can benefit from Inner Relationship Focusing.

Our students agree!


“One of the strengths of Focusing is that you don’t need a therapist to work at a deep level, you have the process for yourself.”
Emma Gran
“Focusing helped me trust my process more and achieve the hoped-for results that always seemed out of reach with other programs.”
Darryl Commings
How will your life improve?

Picture This:

Being able to take a breath when you first feel the impulse to yell so you can respond calmly instead.
Going home at the end of the workday feeling happy about how you communicated with colleagues during a difficult meeting.
Your relationships are thriving because you’ve learned how to listen in a way that fosters genuine connection.

Here’s how you can get started:

We’re here to support you, no matter where you are in your journey

Which kind of Focuser are you?

A Little Bit About Us

I’m here for you!

Hi! I’m Ann Weiser Cornell.

After more than 35 years teaching Focusing around the world, I set out to help even more people discover how to Get Bigger than What’s Bugging Them.

Why? Well, feelings are a part of life… but they often take us over and then we do things we later regret. Acting out your emotional triggers is expensive. It costs you time, sometimes even a job or a relationship. It doesn’t have to be like that.

You? You want to find a new way forward that doesn’t end in blowing up or withdrawing when you get hit by strong emotions. The power to change that pattern – permanently – can be yours.

As the first person to make a living teaching Focusing and the co-founder of the Inner Relationship Focusing process, I’ve collected all the skills I’ve spent a lifetime honing and put them into online programs that fit into your everyday life and I look forward to sharing them with you.

Hope you’ll join us!