Love All of You
Even Your Anxious, Stressed, Overwhelmed Parts!
Discover a Gentle, Proven Way to Find Emotional Freedom
Life is heavy when self-judgment and stress take over. But what if those feelings weren’t enemies—what if they were guides?
Love All of You
Even Your Anxious, Stressed, Overwhelmed Parts!
Discover a Gentle, Proven Way to Find Emotional Freedom
Stop Feeling Stuck and
Start Feeling Good
Tired of being stressed, anxious, or just feeling “blah”? You’re not alone.
There’s a simple, powerful way to shift from self-judgment to self-compassion—so you can:
How? Meet Inner Relationship Focusing (IRF), a simple yet powerful way to befriend your emotions instead of battling them. Instead of feeling controlled by stress or self-criticism, you’ll learn how to listen to your feelings with kindness and transform them into clarity and ease.
Change the Way You Experience Your Emotions—Change Your Life
Imagine what your life would feel like if:
This isn’t just healing. This is emotional revolution. And all of this is possible with Inner Relationship Focusing.
How It Works: The Simple Magic of Listening to Your Emotions
Think of your emotions like a friendly GPS. They’re not trying to mess you up – they’re actually trying to help you navigate life.
How does this actually work? It’s pretty simple:
Proven Results: More Than Just a Method
Backed by
50+
Research Studies Linking Focusing with Positive Outcomes in Therapy
FOUNDED IN
1985
We Have Decades of Experience Helping People with Focusing
WE SUPPORT OVER
11,452
Practicing Inner Relationship Focusing for a Calmer Life
Start to Calm Your Anxiety, Stress, and Overwhelm
Real Stories: How IRF Helps People Find Peace & Self-Compassion
“The secret of Focusing is realizing you don’t have to change anything–you can just be with your emotions as they are.
“I cannot express how much this has enriched my life at a time in which it was greatly needed.”
“Now I am beginning to live a more authentic life and that feels really nurturing. I am finding my way to be and contribute to the world.
“I am so much more able to connect to myself and others since applying Focusing. It makes life more meaningful and rich.”
“The change was transformative. The tensions of trying to keep a lid on toxic emotions disappeared. The anger and resentment dissipated dramatically. A gentle, soothing feeling of trust and open-heartedness began to build between me and all my parts. That feeling also expanded into my relationships. I’m less reactive and better able to adapt based on circumstances.
Personally, Focusing gives me a feeling of being more alive, like the lights of awareness, acceptance, and peace have been switched on inside — so critical during this time of social upheaval, COVID19, and general life unrest.
What is Inner Relationship Focusing? A Gentle Method for Emotional Healing
IRF helps you listen to your feelings—not fight them—so you can:
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by strong emotions like anxiety, sadness, or stress, you don’t have to stay stuck. IRF gives you a way to gently befriend your emotions and find relief.
Focusing starts with the familiar experience of feeling something in your body that is about what is going on in your life.
When you feel jittery in your stomach as you stand up to speak, or when you feel tightness in your chest as you anticipate making a crucial phone call, you are experiencing a body sensation that is meaningful.
If you’re like most of us, you try to get rid of those uncomfortable feelings. What probably doesn’t occur to you, unless you know Focusing, is to listen to the feeling and let it speak to you.
When you let the feeling speak to you, you are allowing yourself to be open to the depth and richness of your whole self. And when you listen to the feeling, it’s much more likely to relax, release, and let you go on with what you’re doing in a clear and centered way.
Whether you’re looking to reduce stress, heal from past traumas, or simply live a more fulfilling life, Focusing can help. It’s easy to use and can be practiced anytime, anywhere.
For more information about Inner Relationship Focusing, click here.
Featured Courses + Events for Emotional Healing and Personal Growth
It’s Not All Downhill
Finding the Gifts in Aging
3 Weeks of Daily Content: Online Video Trainings + Community
Start your journey toward empowered aging. Learn how to face challenges like isolation and physical changes while finding joy and fulfillment in the next chapter of life.
It’s Not All Downhill is more than just a course; it’s a gentle and manageable journey of self-discovery and change. Through guided practices, insightful lessons, and supportive community, you’ll explore the fears and joys of aging in that curious, openhearted way that’s true to everything we do in IRF.
Support for Stressful Times
Join Ann Weiser Cornell for a free, 30-minute, live webinar series
As these uncertain times continue to challenge us in unprecedented ways, our need for connection and emotional support is greater than ever. Our hope is that you’ll leave the webinar with a greater sense of resilience and some relief from the stressful feelings you might be having. And that you’ll know you are not alone.
How Inner Relationship Focusing Can Help You with Anxiety, Self-Doubt, Overwhelming Feelings, and More
Experience More Self-Acceptance
Many of us struggle with a lot of self-judgment, doubt, and anxiety. If you’d like to develop more self-compassion and self-acceptance, we have a number of resources that can help…
From Anxious, Sad, or Overwhelmed to Calm
If you get overwhelmed by strong feelings like anxiety, anger, stress, or sadness, we can help you find your way back to calm, ease, and happiness. Check out our page full of resources to help you work with your own overwhelming emotions.
Shift Your Experience with Inner Critics
Many of us experience a critical inner voice that undermines us at every turn. Sometimes that voice is hostile, other times it feels subtle and still cruel. But that can change… Check out our page full of resources to help you work with your own inner critics.
Start to Heal Emotional Trauma
Emotional trauma can lead to a great deal of self-criticism and self-blame. IRF helps you develop a more compassionate relationship with yourself. By developing this inner relationship, you can shift from self-criticism and self-blame to self-acceptance and self-compassion.
Improve Your Relationships (with Yourself and Others)
When you learn Inner Relationship Focusing, you learn to love and accept yourself. As a result, other people aren’t so triggering. And you’ll learn to listen to people in new ways that will improve your relationships. Check out our page full of resources to help you with your relationships.
Create + Maintain Healthy Boundaries
Establishing healthy boundaries is a key step toward creating a happier life, but it can be hard, right? If you’d like some support understanding how to set and maintain better boundaries, check out our page full of resources.
If you experience emotional stress, you can benefit from Inner Relationship Focusing.
Our students agree!
Meet Ann Weiser Cornell: Helping You Heal from Emotional Struggles
Hi! I’m Ann Weiser Cornell.
After more than 35 years teaching Focusing around the world, I hope to help even more people discover how to Get Bigger than What’s Bugging Them.
Why? Well, feelings are a part of life… but they often take us over and then we do things we later regret. Acting out your emotional triggers is expensive. It costs you time, sometimes even a job or a relationship. It doesn’t have to be like that.
You? You want to find a new way forward that doesn’t end in blowing up or withdrawing when you get hit by strong emotions. The power to change that pattern – permanently – can be yours.
As the co-founder of the Inner Relationship Focusing process, I’ve collected all the skills I’ve spent a lifetime honing and put them into online programs that fit into your everyday life and I look forward to sharing them with you.
Hope you’ll join us!
