The Urge to Indulge

An On-Demand Course With Ann Weiser Cornell

Change unhelpful habits without evoking shame or inner critics so you can have a more peaceful, empowered life.

Whether You’re:

Eating or losing hours to the internet when you’re bored, sad, or restless

Distracting yourself in mindless ways and feeling bad about it later

Beating yourself up for having no willpower or discipline

There is a way to bring some peace to the endless inner war. 

Instead of feeling like your unhelpful habits will always have the upper hand, discover how offering compassion and curiosity to the struggle underneath the habit can bring new possibilities to your life.

Join us and learn a kind, gentle way to shift unhelpful habits.

What causes the Urge to Indulge?

The Urge to Indulge = a repetitive cycle of indulging in food, drink, internet, TV, or other behaviors, followed by guilt, shame, and self-blame.

That cycle springs from something deeper: a war over the control of pain and painful emotions, and the avoidance of forward-moving action.

In The Urge to Indulge course, you’ll learn how to:

  • Recognize when you’re taken over by the urge to indulge and what to do then – that does not involve shaming or criticizing yourself
  • Bring kindness and compassion to yourself even when there is something about you that you want to change
  • Move into a new relationship with the part of you that reaches for the cookie and the part of you that makes you feel bad for doing it
  • Recognize the difference between a habit and a hijack
  • Cultivate your ability to be present to your uncomfortable emotions so that you have less need to distract yourself from them – so that they start to change

Is it like this for you?

Did you ever promise yourself that you were never going to do ____ again? And then find yourself doing it? And then fall victim to an inner critic attack calling you “disgusting” and “hopeless” – or worse? And then think: “I might as well do it some more since I am so worthless anyway…”

Despite careful plans and good intentions, the urge to indulge can hijack us into doing something that we’re sorry for later. That plus self-blame and criticism can become a vicious cycle of unhealthy behavior plus painful feelings.

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And this often seems to happen at transition points in the day… when waking up, when arriving home after work, at bedtime…

I Know, I’ve Been There…

For me, it’s usually when I am tired, at the end of a long day, that I can’t resist that bag of potato chips. I eat it all – and then instead of feeling good, I feel angry at myself for “pigging out” – and despair of this habit ever changing.

But that doesn’t happen these days. Now, I know some ways to stay present when the temptation to soothe myself with old unhealthy habits comes up. More often than not, I now choose to do some knitting – or some Focusing – instead of eating the chips. I’ve learned how to sense in my body for what needs soothing and care – and what kind of soothing it really needs.

And most amazing of all, I learned to do this without activating an inner critical voice to scold me or make me feel bad… Which I know just makes things worse.

Three modules – Each introduces one or two new skills you can use to transform how you handle your urge to indulge.

Number 1

Why We Indulge

There is always something else underneath the urge to indulge – feelings like sadness or overwhelm, or some need like rest or self-care. We’ll explore how to make contact with the part of you that “does it” so you have a healing inner relationship that can shift both how you feel and what you do, without self-shaming.

The Hijack and the Backlash

One big issue with the Urge to Indulge is that you often find yourself already doing it, or already having done it, before you’re aware you had a choice. That’s called “hijack” —  and we’ll learn how to defuse hijack before it starts. Then there is “backlash” — that wave of shame and self-hate that comes afterward. And that too can shift — forever!

Resolving the War Over Feelings

The war over feelings is the struggle to not feel what you feel. Sometimes we don’t want to feel what’s hard…but not allowing what you feel comes at a great cost. We’ll discover ways to be with challenging feelings so they don’t get stuck and you can move forward with your life.

About Your Teacher

Ann created Inner Relationship Focusing with her long-time colleague, Barbara McGavin, to help alleviate the thinking and feeling cycles that kept her stuck in hard places. It changed her life, and it became her mission to help others create quiet miracles in their lives too.

For over 35 years now, Ann’s been teaching this practical, revolutionary process to people all over the world. With this on-demand course, you get the benefit of Ann’s expertise and the chance to practice the simple, yet revolutionary process of Focusing with her gentle, compassionate guidance.

Ann is the author of Focusing in Clinical Practice: The Essence of Change, The Power of Focusing, and The Radical Acceptance of Everything. Today she is internationally recognized as one of the leading innovators and theoreticians of Focusing.

Course Information

This Course Could Be Right For You If…

  • You struggle with the urge to indulge, and you’d like to get beyond it to a more peaceful, more empowered life
  • You know there is a way to change without shaming yourself, but you don’t know how yet
  • You feel a strong commitment to your own emotional healing and beautiful full life


  • The real reason why those transition points in the day are the most vulnerable times for the urge to indulge
  • What the part of you that indulges has probably been trying to protect you from… And why it doesn’t have to
  • How to push the pause button on the urge to indulge without activating self-blame
  • When you do start beating yourself up, how to shift that shaming voice into a loving inner protector
  • How to shift awareness from the struggle on the surface to what’s calling for your attention, deep down

How You’ll Learn

  • This is a three-lesson, video-based course taught through an online course platform.
  • Every lesson offers two new guided exercises, plus life-changing information about what is really possible for you
  • All the information and all the exercises are in beautiful handouts designed just for this course
  • You get plenty of opportunities to share your experiences and ask questions – if you want to

Your Digital Workbook

Are You Ready to Stop the Repetitive Cycle of Indulging Behaviors?

I Can Help You Learn How To…

Identify Why You Indulge, Without Shaming Yourself

Pause and Become Aware of What’s Happening Before You Indulge

Transform How You Handle Your Urge to Indulge

The Urge to Indulge On-Demand Course

$95.00 $47.50

3-week on-demand video course Unlimited, lifetime access Downloadable workbook Access to our online forum

This is an on-demand course. Video was recorded during an actual live course and has been edited. Sound quality may vary.

Get 6 Powerful Guided Exercises:

  • Becoming Aware of What Happens
  • The Part of You That Indulges – and What that Part Wants for You
  • Shifting the Shame
  • In the Moment of Hijack
  • Allowing the Disallowed Feelings
  • Living with Clarity and Presence
  • And much, much more…

How This Course Works

Learn Wherever You Like

This course is accessible by computer, tablet, or smart phone. If you can connect to the internet, you can connect to this course!

Be Supported In Your Process!

You won’t be going it alone! You’ll have access to a forum to chat with other students, plus access to Ann for parts where you might feel stuck.

Available at Your Convenience!

You can move through this course as quickly or slowly as you like. You’ll also have lifetime access to the material, so you can revisit it anytime

Interactive Materials

This course includes a beautiful PDF workbook to help you integrate your learning. There will also be checkpoints during the course to check-in on your progress.

What People Are Saying

Got Questions? We’ve Got Your Answers…

The great news is that you can take this course whenever it works for you. You get content when you want it, plus lifetime access. No stressing out about being somewhere on time. Way less pressure to move through the material at a pace that might not fit for you. The lessons are compact and set up so that you can do them in small bites or big chunks depending on your learning style and your availability.

No. You’ll have access to the first Module of the course as soon as you sign up. Every 7 days, you’ll get a new module released to you. We provide the content in ‘small bites’ like this because taking time to practice the material and move forward in small, consistent steps supports you in making the kinds of changes you really want to make.

Sure. The classroom is virtual. You’ll get access to the course platform right after registering. Materials are provided via a combination of video, audio slideshows, and written content to cover a variety of learning styles. There is a forum so you can connect with other program participants and be part of a dynamic learning community. And you get lifetime access to all of it. Go through it once and come back anytime you need some extra support to handle life!

Thanks for asking. Each course is licensed to a single user – you! While we can’t authorize you to share the materials, we’d love to have your friend participate too. Please feel free to invite them to sign up too!

Your course comes with a 100% money-back guarantee. If you let us know within one year after you purchase the course that we didn’t deliver what we said we would, just ask and we’ll cheerfully refund the full course fee.

No, we’re sorry. Continuing Education Units (CE Credits) are not available for this course. If you need CE Credits, please check out our upcoming live online courses here.

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