Ann Weiser Cornell’s newest on-demand course

21 Days on Navigating Transitions, Grief & Loss

A gentle, guided journey through grief, loss, and life’s biggest changes, so you can move forward without leaving behind what mattered.

Class starts July 14  • Includes 3 live Q&A calls

Ann Weiser Cornell’s newest on-demand course

21 Days on Navigating Transitions, Grief & Loss

A gentle, guided journey through grief, loss, and life’s biggest changes, so you can move forward without leaving behind what mattered.

Class starts July 14  • Includes 3 live Q&A calls

Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.


Pema Chodron

Something in you knows this isn’t a moment to push through.

Grief doesn’t follow a timeline. Transitions don’t wait until you’re ready. And between the loss itself and what comes next, it’s easy to lose track of yourself entirely.

Maybe you’re still doing your best to show up. Still functioning. But inside, something feels off. Numb, restless, or even angry. You don’t quite know who you are in this new landscape, or whether you’re allowed to still be grieving or confused.

Maybe the people around you have moved on. Maybe they don’t understand the particular shape of what you’ve lost or what’s changed. Perhaps you don’t even have words for it yet

21 Days on Navigating Transitions, Grief, & Loss was created for times like these. The ones between where you were and where you’re going after life took a different turn.

A lone figure stands in a vast foggy field, creating a moody atmosphere.

Where You May Be Now:

  • Adrift in the fog of loss, like the world is carrying on and you’re stuck in the time when everything changed
  • Alone in your grief, because what you’re mourning isn’t something others can see, or understand. Or because they’ve grown uncomfortable with how long it’s taking
  • Caught in a loop of regret, replaying what you could have said, or should have done… 
    what might have been different
  • Uncertain of who you are now, because so much of your sense of self was bound up in who or what is gone
  • Afraid it will always feel this way… not knowing if it’s possible to hold the ache of loss and the possibility of hope at the same time
  • Or afraid that moving forward means leaving someone or something behind

Where You’ll Be After 21 Days:

  • Able to be with your feelings in a compassionate way
  • Less overwhelmed by waves of sadness, or anger, or exhaustion. They may come, and you’ll be strong enough not to be swept away
  • Clear that moving forward doesn’t mean leaving love or meaning behind
  • More at home in yourself, even in the middle of change
  • More able to ask for (and take in) the support you need.
  • Beginning to sense what’s still possible and what remains, even through loss and change
A person in jeans and sneakers walks along a forest path at sunset in Italy.

That quiet knowing that this is too big to carry alone is worth trusting. You don’t have to find your way through this by yourself. That’s what these 21 days are for.

A 21-day journey inward. Through loss and change, toward yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like the feelings that come up around loss are something to brace for, frustratingly persistent, or that you just want them to go away, that’s all perfectly normal. And…those feelings are all signs that something in you is still waiting to be met.

We’re often given the impression that grief and major life changes are things to get over, or just push through. IRF offers something different. 

Instead of trying to change what you feel, you learn to be with it. To sit beside it. To listen to what it carries. And this turns out to be what actually helps with grief and transition. Not forcing or trying to ignore it, but accompanying it. By meeting yourself where you are.

Each of the 21 lessons builds gently on the one before. Through Ann’s video guidance and thoughtful reflection practices, you’ll move from the first rawness and disorientation of grief or a major transition, through the harder questions of identity and meaning, and toward what becomes possible on the other side.

You won’t be asked to rush or let go before you’re ready. And you won’t be doing this alone.

A 21-day journey inward.
Through loss and change, toward yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like the feelings that come up around loss are something to brace for, frustratingly persistent, or that you just want them to go away, that’s all perfectly normal. And…those feelings are all signs that something in you is still waiting to be met.

We’re often given the impression that grief and major life changes are things to get over, or just push through. IRF offers something different. 

Instead of trying to change what you feel, you learn to be with it. To sit beside it. To listen to what it carries. And this turns out to be what actually helps with grief and transition. Not forcing or trying to ignore it, but accompanying it. By meeting yourself where you are.

Each of the 21 lessons builds gently on the one before. Through Ann’s video guidance and thoughtful reflection practices, you’ll move from the first rawness and disorientation of grief or a major transition, through the harder questions of identity and meaning, and toward what becomes possible on the other side.

You won’t be asked to rush or let go before you’re ready. And you won’t be doing this alone.

What this course can help with

This course is particularly helpful if you’re navigating:

  • The death of a loved one, including complicated or ambiguous grief
  • Divorce, separation, or the end of a significant relationship
  • Major life transitions — retirement, relocation, an empty nest, a career change
  • Loss of identity or sense of self following a big change
  • Anticipatory grief: living alongside a loss that hasn’t fully arrived yet
  • Invisible grief: mourning things others don’t recognize or acknowledge
  • Chronic or ongoing loss, such as a loved one’s declining health or dementia
  • Guilt, regret, and the cycle of what-ifs that won’t quiet down
  • Anger that arises during grief, and the confusion that often comes with it
  • The fear that you’ll never feel like yourself again
  • Learning to hold grief and hope at the same time

You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair.


Old Chinese Proverb


Navigating Transitions, Grief & Loss At A Glance

Daily Practices

Every day for 21 days you get one new practice to explore. Short enough to fit into real life, meaningful enough to stay with you.

Online Video Support

Daily videos to help you put the practices to work. Easy-to-use online course you can access from anywhere.

Supportive Community

A forum where you and other people in the course can share, reflect, and feel less alone in the process.

3 Live Q&A Calls

 Let’s deepen the conversation around transitions, grief, and loss and all that brings up.
(The calls will be recorded if you can’t join live.)

When: 3 Thursdays, July 16, 23 & 30 from 10 AM to 11 AM Pacific Time.



Get Support Navigating Grief, Loss, and Life’s Biggest Changes


Some of the Topics We’ll Cover

  • Loss, Grief, Transition — and the Importance of Feelings
  • The Healing Power of Time — Really?
  • The Support You Need and How to Ask for It
  • Regrets, Guilt, and What-Ifs
  • The Grief that Others Can’t See
  • Big Life Change – Rebuilding Your Sense of Self
  • Setbacks vs Losses
  • Anger – Who Expected Anger?
  • Dealing with Denial from Society and Other People’s Discomfort
  • Managing Solitude and Loneliness
  • Honoring What is Precious
  • The Support You Need and How to Ask for It
  • New Life Emerging
  • What Remains, What Endures
  • And more…

A Message From Ann

I’ve sat with many people over the years who were navigating grief and loss. The death of someone beloved, the end of a relationship, a life that no longer looked like the one they’d imagined. And what I’ve noticed again and again is that the hardest part isn’t usually the feeling itself. It’s the sense that you’re not doing it right. That you’re too much. That you should be over it by now. That moving forward means betraying what you loved.

What I’ve learned, from decades of teaching and from my own losses, is that grief needs to be accompanied. When something inside you finally feels truly met, something shifts. Not all at once, and not the way you expect. But it does shift.

That’s what this course offers. Not a map through grief, because grief doesn’t move in a straight line. You’ll get a way to be with yourself inside it, with more steadiness, more self-compassion, and more access to what’s actually alive in you.

I hope you’ll join me.

When we make a change, it’s so easy to interpret our unsettledness as unhappiness, and our unhappiness as a result of having made the wrong decision. Our mental and emotional states fluctuate madly when we make big changes in our lives, and some days we could tight-rope across Manhattan, and other days we are too weary to clean our teeth. This is normal. This is natural. This is change.

—Jeanette Winterson


Grief isn’t a problem to solve. Transition isn’t a detour from your real life. They are part of it. Part of you.

These 21 days will help you explore what changes when you can be with what’s here.

Enroll for Your Course Here

Class starts July 14  • Includes 3 live Q&A calls on July 16, 23 & 30 from 10 AM to 11 AM Pacific
21 Days on Navigating Transitions, Grief & Loss

21 Days on Navigating Transitions, Grief & Loss

$157.00

You may be carrying more than anyone around you realizes — a loss that arrived without warning, a change that asked you to become someone you don’t quite know yet, or a grief that others don’t quite see or have words for. 21 Days on Navigating Transitions, Grief & Loss offers a gentle, guided path through the feelings and challenges that come with loss and major life change, so you can move forward without leaving behind what mattered.


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Touchstones for Tough Moments

There are moments in grief and transition when you don’t need more to do. You need something to hold onto. This guide offers gentle body-friendly invitations you can scan and land on, whenever you need them most. They’ll help you find a little ground beneath your feet whether you’re in the rawness of a fresh loss, the fog of a major life change, or somewhere in the long middle of it all. 

Guided Self-Compassion Practice Collection

Some moments call for more than understanding. They call for being met. This collection of short, guided IRF practices offers you a way to turn toward yourself with genuine compassion during grief, loss, and the disorientation that major life change can bring. Each practice stands on its own, so you can return to whichever one fits where you are.

When Someone You Love Is Hurting: A Compassionate Presence Guide

We often hear from people that wish they knew how to be there for friends, family, or clients, “Am I saying the wrong thing?” “Am I rushing their process?” “Am I just making things harder?” This guide offers simple, IRF-informed ways to be present with someone in grief or change: how to listen without fixing, how to stay when it’s uncomfortable, and how to offer the kind of company that actually helps.

There are three needs of the griever: To find the words for the loss, to say the words aloud and to know that the words have been heard.


—Victoria Alexander

How This Course Works

Learn Wherever You Like

This course is accessible by computer, tablet, or smart phone. If you can connect to the internet, you can connect to this course!

Be Supported In Your Process!

You won’t be going it alone! You’ll have access to a forum to chat with other students, plus access to Ann for parts where you might feel stuck.

Available at Your Convenience!

Access new content (delivered daily) whenever it works for you. You get lifetime access, so you can revisit the material anytime

Interactive Materials

This course includes a beautiful PDF practices to help you integrate your learning. There will also be checkpoints during the course to check-in on your progress.

Common Questions

Some things people often ask before enrolling

What types of grief and loss does this course address?

This course is designed for the full range of what grief can look like. Not just the death of a loved one, but the end of a relationship, a major life transition, the loss of a future you’d planned on, health changes, estrangement, and the kinds of loss that don’t have a name but are just as real. It also addresses what’s sometimes called ambiguous grief or invisible grief: mourning something that others don’t recognize or acknowledge. If you’re not sure whether your particular loss “counts,” it does.

How is this different from grief therapy or grief counseling?

This course isn’t a substitute for therapy, and Ann isn’t functioning as your therapist here. What it offers is something complementary: a set of body-based, self-compassion practices grounded in Inner Relationship Focusing that you can use on your own, in your own time, to develop a different relationship with what you’re carrying. 

Is this a somatic or body-based approach to grief? 

Yes. IRF is grounded in the understanding that grief lives in the body, not just the mind. And that lasting change comes through turning toward those bodily felt experiences with curiosity and compassion, rather than trying to think your way through them. You don’t need any prior experience with somatic or body-based work. Ann teaches everything you need to engage with the supportive practices in this course.

I’m not sure I’m ready for this. Is there a right time? 

If you’ve read this far, something in you is looking for a way through. That’s all the readiness you need. This course meets you wherever you are. Whether you’re in the acute rawness of a recent loss, navigating a grief that arrived years ago and never fully moved, or sitting with a loss that’s still approaching.

My grief feels different from other people’s. Will this still apply to me?

Yes. Grief takes many forms, and the IRF approach is built to meet whatever is most present in your own particular experiences. The course was designed with the uniqueness of each person’s experience of grief in mind.

I’ve tried therapy, journaling, and other approaches. What makes this different?

Many participants come to this course with a meaningful history of self-work, and still find themselves stuck in the same loops or caught off guard by the same feelings. What IRF offers that most approaches don’t is a way to turn toward difficult emotions rather than observe, analyze, or think through them. People who already have self-awareness often find the process moves quickly for them, because they’re not starting from scratch. They’re adding a missing piece.

Will this course be emotionally overwhelming?

The course is gentle by design, and Ann’s guidance is warm and steady throughout. You’ll never be pushed faster than feels right, and the practices are structured to support you, not flood you. That said, grief is real, and some lessons may bring things up. Part of what the course teaches is how to be with that so you’re not alone in those moments, and you have tools for them.

Can I take this course if I’m also in therapy?

Yes, the course works well alongside therapy. If anything comes up that feels like more than you can hold on your own, please do reach out to your therapist or another mental health professional. The IRF practices in this course are designed for personal growth and self-support, not as clinical treatment.

Even more questions?

The course includes 21 daily practices, plus three 1-hour live Q&A sessions. The daily practices are designed to fit easily into your daily life and interactions. Each practice takes about 5-7 minutes. We recommend keeping them in mind as you go about your day.

We’ve created a structure that respects your busy life while providing enough engagement for real change. Past participants in our 21-day courses have told us that rather than adding stress to their schedule, these courses actually create more spaciousness in their lives.

3 Thursdays, July 16, 23 & 30 from 10 AM to 11 AM Pacific Time.

Being present at the live calls is nice, but it’s not essential for the course. It’s the 21 daily practices presented in short, pre-recorded videos that are the heart of the course. The live calls will all be recorded, so if you have to miss them, you can still hear what was shared.

Your access will be one practice per day, one day at a time. This approach gives you the greatest support in growing your skills. You can go through the new lesson each day, or if a different timeline works for you, take all the time you want. There’s no pressure to complete the course on any schedule.

The practice each day will arrive by email AND it will also appear on our online course platform. So if your email delivery is spotty, you can bookmark the course page and go there every day to get your new practice.

If you have trouble with the technical aspects, please contact Isabella, our customer happiness specialist at isabella@focusingresources.com

If you have questions about the daily practice or what it brings up, I’ll be checking the forum in our online class platform often and responding to all questions. You can also bring your questions to the three live calls (by Zoom).

After registering for the course, you’ll receive a link to our online course platform. You can access our online learning environment using any browser (Safari, Chrome, etc.). You can watch the day’s video exercise there or download it as an audio file. There’s a forum to help you connect with other participants and be part of a dynamic learning community. You get lifetime access to the materials. Go through it once and come back anytime you need some extra support to handle life!

Thanks for asking. Each course is licensed to a single user – you! While we can’t authorize you to share the materials, we’d love to have your friend participate too. Please feel free to invite them to sign up too!

No, we’re sorry. Continuing Education Units (CE Credits) are not available for this course. If you need CE Credits, please check out our upcoming live online courses here.

Your course comes with a 100% money-back guarantee. If you let us know within 60 days of your purchase that we didn’t deliver what we said we would, just ask and we’ll cheerfully refund the full course fee.

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