Ann Weiser Cornell’s newest 21-day on-demand course
Feeling Good About Yourself
A gentle, guided journey into liking yourself exactly as you are, including the parts you’ve been hardest on.
Class Starts November 19 | Includes 3 live Q&A calls
Ann Weiser Cornell’s newest on-demand course
Feeling Good About Yourself
A gentle, guided journey into liking yourself exactly as you are, including the parts you’ve been hardest on.
Class Starts November 19 | Includes 3 live Q&A calls
—Carl Rogers
You probably know that voice… the one that shows up the second you make a mistake…
“Why did you do that?” “You should have known better.” Sometimes it doesn’t even use words, just a wave of shame that tells you something’s fundamentally wrong with you.
For some of us it’s the worry about what people really think about us. For others, it’s a number on a scale, a performance review, or the same mistake we can’t stop thinking about. However it shows up, the message underneath is usually the same: you’re not good enough as you are.
That voice isn’t telling you the truth. It’s pain, often from a long way back, trying to keep you safe by keeping you small (after all, smaller targets are harder to hit). When you can meet it with some gentleness instead of believing everything it says, how you feel about yourself starts to change.
It can be a wonderful thing to actually like who you are… to catch your reflection and feel something closer to fondness than critique, to make a mistake and let it go instead of carrying it for the rest of the day. That’s the shift I want to explore with you.
Feeling Good About Yourself offers practical skills and compassionate guidance to help that shift take root. Starting today.
Where You May Be Now:
Or perhaps you’re already feeling reasonably good about yourself and want to discover what else is possible as you go deeper.
Where You’ll Be After 21 Days:
You don’t have to arrive at this course feeling good about yourself. That’s the point. Come as you are and let’s begin there.
A 21-day journey inward. Past the criticism, toward yourself.
Feeling Good About Yourself is a guided way into a different, more supportive relationship with the person you spend every minute of your life with: you.
Through short lessons and simple practices, you’ll meet the parts of you that carry the harshest judgments. And you’ll discover how curiosity and openheartedness allow those parts, and their messages, to soften.
Each day for 21 days, you’ll get one lesson that takes less than 10 minutes. Small enough to fit into an ordinary day, even a difficult one, and designed to create real change. And if a lesson per day is too much, know there’s nothing to nothing to fall behind on. Go at whatever pace actually works for you.
You won’t be doing this alone. I’ll be here to answer your questions. And from the moment you join, you’ll be part of a like-minded community of heart-centered learners, walking this path alongside you. You can engage as much or as little as feels right. Support is here when you need it.
A 21-day journey inward. Past the criticism, toward yourself.
Feeling Good About Yourself is a guided way into a different, more supportive relationship with the person you spend every minute of your life with: you.
Through short lessons and simple practices, you’ll meet the parts of you that carry the harshest judgments. And you’ll discover how curiosity and openheartedness allow those parts, and their messages, to soften.
Each day for 21 days, you’ll get one lesson that takes less than 10 minutes. Small enough to fit into an ordinary day, even a difficult one, and designed to create real change. And if a lesson per day is too much, know there’s nothing to nothing to fall behind on. Go at whatever pace actually works for you.
You won’t be doing this alone. I’ll be here to answer your questions. And from the moment you join, you’ll be part of a like-minded community of heart-centered learners, walking this path alongside you. You can engage as much or as little as feels right. Support is here when you need it.
—Pema Chödrön
Feeling Good About Yourself At A Glance
Daily Practices
Every day for 21 days you get one new practice to explore. Short enough to fit into real life, meaningful enough to stay with you.
Online Video Support
Daily videos to help you put the practices to work. Easy-to-use online course you can access from anywhere.
Supportive Community
A forum where you and other people in the course can share, reflect, and feel less alone in the process.
3 Live Q&A Calls
Get help when you feel stuck. Together, let’s deepen the conversation around genuinely liking yourself and all that brings up. (The calls will be recorded, so you can get the support even if you can’t join live.)
When: 3 Mondays, November 23, 30 & December 7 from 11 AM to 12 PM Pacific Time.
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Some of the Topics We’ll Cover
- The many dimensions of feeling good about yourself
- The part that doesn’t want you to feel good about yourself
- Gentleness for a younger one inside who was told they were unlovable
- What to do with your emotional pain
- The belief that others are better than you
- Hiding vs becoming visible — what wants to be seen?
- Feeling good in the presence of others
- Allowing yourself to be unusual
- The positive power of curiosity (eg when encountering other people)
- Full-on self-appreciation — with no but’s or if’s
- Living your self-loving life from this moment on
- And more…
About Your Teacher
Ann knows the voice that says, “You’re not good enough.” She’s stood around at parties wishing she were somewhere else because of the discomfort of being herself around other people. She’s felt the pain of disliking the way she looks and feeling like she’s “too much.” What she found, over decades of work with herself and her students, is that liking yourself isn’t something you argue your way into. It comes from a radical acceptance of what’s already here, including the parts you’d rather not claim.
Ann created Inner Relationship Focusing with her long-time colleague, Barbara McGavin, to help people learn to listen compassionately to all the inner voices. Along the way, Ann and Barbara developed a radical new process for relating to the inner voices of resistance and not being enough. It changed their lives, and it became their mission to help others transform as well.
For over 35 years now, Ann’s been teaching this practical, revolutionary process to people all over the world. With this course, you get the benefit of Ann’s expertise and the chance to practice the simple, yet revolutionary process of Focusing with her gentle, compassionate guidance.
Ann is the author of 21 Days to Healthier Boundaries, Focusing in Clinical Practice: The Essence of Change, The Power of Focusing, and The Radical Acceptance of Everything. She is also the co-author of Untangling: How You Can Transform What’s Impossibly Stuck. Today she is internationally recognized as one of the leading innovators and theoreticians of Focusing.
—Ann Weiser Cornell
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Class starts November 19 • Includes 3 live Q&A calls on Nov 23, 30 & Dec 7 from 11 AM to 12 PM Pacific
Feeling Good About Yourself
You long to feel at ease with yourself, but the critical voice, old hurts, and the habit of measuring yourself against everyone else can make liking who you are feel just out of reach. Ann Weiser Cornell’s Feeling Good About Yourself helps you move beyond those barriers, so you can live with a steadier sense of your own worth and spend your energy on your life instead of on what you think is wrong with you.
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Small Enough to Actually Do: A Field Guide to Feel Good Micro Moments
When feeling good about yourself seems far away, the instruction to build self esteem is too big to act on. This guide is the opposite of that. It’s a scannable collection of very small moves, each one drawn from what people actually described when they remembered feeling genuinely good, and each one takes minutes rather than months. Nothing here asks you to achieve anything or become anyone. Keep it where you’ll see it and pick one when you need a way back in. Feeling good about yourself is built from moments this size, noticed and allowed to count.
Seeing Yourself with Fresh Eyes: Letting It Be OK to Feel Good About Yourself
Maybe you can’t imagine feeling good about yourself because you never have. Or if someone does like or appreciate you, you either don’t notice, or you don’t believe it. But you probably know people you find lovable and admirable, flaws and all. And their flaws don’t disqualify them from being worth loving. So why would your flaws disqualify you? In this practice, you’ll turn that same generosity on yourself, not demanding perfection in order to like who you are. It might feel like playing make-believe at first. That’s fine, sometimes your imagination is how you get somewhere new. You do have the right to feel good about yourself. This is an invitation to notice how that feels.
When Shame Stops You in Your Tracks: Self-Care for Those Difficult Moments
You weren’t expecting shame – but someone says something or cuts you off mid-sentence, and you drop into shame like a trapdoor has opened beneath your feet. In this practice, we offer “first aid” for those moments – the painful body feelings, the urge to disappear, and the critical thoughts about yourself. Shame is two parts: the downtrodden “shamed part” and the sharp inner “shamer.” Neither holds the truth about who you are. Both are trying to protect you, and both need for you to be Self-in-Presence and listen gently. We’ll practice this with a recent incident, and give you a process you can return to whenever shame shows up again.
—Anne Lamott
How This Course Works
Learn Wherever You Like
This course is accessible by computer, tablet, or smart phone. If you can connect to the internet, you can connect to this course!
Be Supported In Your Process!
You won’t be going it alone! You’ll have access to a forum to chat with other students, plus access to Ann for parts where you might feel stuck.
Available at Your Convenience!
Access new content (delivered daily) whenever it works for you. You get lifetime access, so you can revisit the material anytime
Interactive Materials
This course includes a beautiful PDF practices to help you integrate your learning. There will also be checkpoints during the course to check-in on your progress.
Some things people often ask before enrolling
I’ve tried therapy, meditation, journaling, and other courses. What makes this different?
Many people come to this course with a long history of self-work. They understand their patterns, can trace them back to where they started, and still can’t quite feel any different. What IRF offers that most approaches don’t is a way to turn toward the parts of you that carry the harshest judgments, rather than analyzing them or arguing with them. People who already have self-awareness often find the process moves quickly, because they’re not starting from scratch. They’re adding a missing piece.
My inner critic doesn’t use words. Will this still apply to me?
Yes. For some people the criticism is loud and verbal. For others it arrives as a wave of shame, a heaviness, a sense of failure with no sentence attached. IRF works with the felt experience rather than the words, so it meets you whether or not you can articulate what’s happening. If anything, the wordless version is often where this approach is most useful.
Is this a somatic or body-based approach?
Yes. IRF is grounded in the understanding that how you feel about yourself lives in the body, not just the mind. Lasting change comes from turning toward those bodily felt experiences with curiosity and compassion, rather than thinking your way to a better opinion of yourself. You don’t need any prior experience with somatic work. Ann teaches everything you need to benefit from this course.
How is this different from therapy?
This course isn’t a substitute for therapy, and Ann isn’t functioning as your therapist here. What it offers is complementary: a set of body-based, self-compassion practices grounded in Inner Relationship Focusing that you can use on your own, in your own time, to develop a different relationship with yourself.
Isn’t liking yourself the same as being self-centered?
It tends to work the other way around. When you’re preoccupied with monitoring how you’re coming across and managing what you think is wrong with you, most of your attention is turned inward. People who feel steady in themselves generally have more attention available for others, not less. Several of the practices in this course are aimed at exactly that shift.
What if I can’t remember ever feeling good about myself?
You’re not alone in that, and the course doesn’t require you to produce a shining memory or sense of self to begin. Some people arrive with nothing to point to. The work starts from where you are, and part of what it teaches is how to notice the smaller, quieter moments that are often overlooked.
Is this course only for people who feel bad about themselves?
No. Some people come already feeling reasonably good and want something steadier underneath it, or want to explore what else is possible. The practices work at any starting point.
I’m not sure I’m ready. Is there a right time?
If you’ve read this far, something in you is already reaching toward a kinder way of being with yourself. That reaching is the only readiness required. This course also doesn’t ask you to feel more confident or more prepared before you begin, it helps you start now, exactly as you are.
Will this course be emotionally overwhelming?
The course is gentle by design, and Ann’s guidance is warm and steady throughout. You’ll never be pushed faster than feels right, and the practices are structured to support you rather than flood you. That said, some lessons may bring things up. Part of what the course teaches is how to be with that, so you’re not alone in those moments and you have tools to meet them.
Can I take this course if I’m also in therapy?
Yes, the course works well alongside therapy. If anything comes up that feels like more than you can hold on your own, please reach out to your therapist or another mental health professional. The IRF practices in this course are designed for personal growth and self-support, not as clinical treatment.
