Do you get pulled off center by stress, negativity, too much going on? We can help…
A 3-week live, online course with Ann Weiser Cornell for Being Calm and Steady No Matter What
Do you find yourself reacting – and over-reacting – to the daily stresses of life?
There’s so much that is stressful these days! Social media, email, the news… it can easily start feeling like “just too much.”
Other people are stressed out as well… so you can find yourself embroiled in conflicts that you didn’t start but don’t know how to get out of.
It’s easy to feel at the mercy of the tough things in life.
Losses and challenges can land on you one after another until it feels like you’ll never get out from under. Ashleigh Brilliant wrote: “I can handle one day at a time, but sometimes several days pile up on me at once.” Once you start to lose your perspective, even small stresses can feel like big disasters.
The trouble comes when you lose your capacity to roll with the punches and come back to center.
Hard things happen to everyone and it’s natural to need some time to recover. But when you’ve lost your resilience, even taking time doesn’t seem to help. You rest – but you don’t feel rested. Your stress levels remain high… and that takes a big toll, physically and emotionally. It’s like your reserves are being drained and they don’t fill up again.
Yes, there is a way to recover your inner resources and face life with “a full tank.”
It’s called cultivating Self-in-Presence.
Self-in-Presence is quite simply the ability to be bigger than what life throws at you.
Maybe you remember a time when you were in such a good mood that the usual stresses couldn’t trigger you. Or you can think of some people you know who can remain calm when others would get defensive. That’s Self-in-Presence.
When you cultivate Self-in-Presence, you can handle even the toughest things in life from a calm, strong center.
The concept of Self-in-Presence comes from the Untangling™ method that Barbara McGavin and I created to meet the challenges of suicidal depression and alcohol addiction. Yes, even for challenges that tough, the first step is to cultivate Self-in-Presence.
Rather than being in denial, Self-in-Presence is a state where you see with clear eyes.
You can make good choices. You can gather the best information. You can discern between situations and behaviors that don’t serve you, and those that nourish you and others. When you’re reactive and overwhelmed, it’s hard to do these things. But as Self-in-Presence, you have the resources you need to respond to life as your whole self.
When you cultivate Self-in-Presence, you have a way to handle and feel at ease with:
- The big and little stresses of life
- Your emotional states like anxiety or anger
- Other people… no matter what state of stress they’re in
- Your own needs for rest, self-care, creativity, and more
Join me in this course where I’ll show you how to:
- Create a daily practice that will nourish and grow your ability to be calm and steady in the midst of stress
- Understand the difference between using good feelings as a way to skip over negatives, and being genuinely positive despite the negatives
- Live from Self-in-Presence – your calm strong center – all day long. Morning, noon, and night!
- Make use of challenging feelings to strengthen your calm center, so you don’t have to be at the mercy of how you feel
- Look trouble in the eye, do what is needed, and still be OK in yourself
This course could be right for you if:
- You find yourself getting knocked over by emotional states, triggered by events or other people
- You want to be able to access your full resources of emotional intelligence when you deal with life day by day
- You know that having more equanimity and balance is possible, you just don’t know how
What You’ll Get:
In this course, you’ll experience a series of resource-building practices that you can make part of your life and go on using even when the course is over.
And you’ll get lots of support from a community of other Focusers to maintain your Self-in-Presence practice!
The result: You know in your bones that you can take what life throws at you and at your deepest core you have what you need to be all right.
About Your Guide
Ann Weiser Cornell, PhD, is the co-developer (with Barbara McGavin) of Inner Relationship Focusing. Ann learned Focusing in 1972 from its developer, Eugene Gendlin, and was his close friend and colleague to the end of his life.
Ann has written several definitive books on Focusing, including The Power of Focusing: A Practical Guide to Emotional Self-Healing, and Focusing in Clinical Practice: The Essence of Change.
She has taught Inner Relationship Focusing around the world since 1980, and is a past president of the Association for Humanistic Psychology.
“Cultivating Self-in-Presence is perhaps the most important thing you can do to keep you safe when dealing with inner and outer conflict. It will keep you strong and it will keep you on track.”
-Barbara McGavin & Ann Weiser Cornell
Are You Ready to Be Calm and Steady No Matter What?
I Can Help Get You There…
Want to get a first-hand experience of what this course can offer you?
- A deeper understanding of why we get hijacked by our stressful feelings — and why we don’t have to
- Three powerful practices for “resourcing” yourself so you can be calm when you need calm the most
- A simple, easy-to-use method for turning stressful feelings into opportunities to feel steady and calm
“Who you really are in your deepest self is not your trouble, not your hurt, not your distress. Who you really are is calm, strong, compassionate Presence.”
– Ann Weiser Cornell
How Online Courses Work
We use Zoom, an online video conference platform, to connect you to other students and the teacher. Before the class starts you will receive a Zoom link to use each time the class meets. You can join us via your camera-equipped computer, tablet, or smart phone. Prefer not to be on video? You can turn off your camera. Don’t want to call via computer? You can call in by phone. Zoom is free and easy to use. You will be able to sign on in advance to make sure you can access it, but we’ve had very few problems with it. Students also receive access to a private webpage where course materials can be found.
There is no prerequisite for this course. All are welcome.
Continuing Education Credit & Course Completion Certificate
Course meets the qualifications for 6 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. Focusing Resources, CAMFT Approved CE Provider #62524
Focusing Resources is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs. Focusing Resources maintains responsibility for this course and its content.
There is a $25 administrative fee for CE units. Course completion certificates are awarded at the end of the course upon completion of all requirements and the course evaluation. (If you don’t want CE units but would like a completion certificate, the $25 fee does still apply.)
Eligibility for CE units requires at least 80% live attendance. If you miss a class, it must be made up.
Cancellations, Changes & Refunds
Up to 14 days before the first day of class: Just let us know and we'll refund your course fee. Or you can choose to apply the entire course fee towards a future class with us.
Cancellations received 13 days or fewer before class begins: No refund, sorry.
When Something Doesn't Go As You'd Hoped...
We are always open to discussing experiences with our courses that didn’t work for you or didn’t go the way you expected. Depending on the circumstances, you may want to email your course instructor, the staff member in charge of your course, or Ann Weiser Cornell. Email addresses for all these people will be supplied on registration. We will work with you to find a way to meet your needs.
Do I need to attend every class meeting?
You can enroll in this course and listen to the recordings that are available 1-2 days after each class meeting. We call this remote attendance. Please Note: If you attend remotely, you are ineligible for CEUs.
Is this a course with partnership practice?
No, partnerships are not available for this course.
Tell me more about the classroom environment and how course content is provided?
Sure. This course is taught using an online video conference system called Zoom. You’ll receive all the details you need to join us via Zoom prior to the first class meeting. You’ll also receive a private class webpage where homework assignments and class recordings can be found. Participants will be able to communicate via an online forum on the private class webpage.