“Mistakes can happen to anyone, but can our felt senses keep us from turning them into even bigger mistakes?”

By Ann Weiser Cornell on March 1, 2017 in Blog, Tips

Focusing Tip #549

When you’re in public and something is not right (like Warren Beatty at the Oscars), what can you do?

You might be wondering:

If you watched the Oscars on Sunday night or you heard about what happened… that Warren Beatty and Faye Dunaway were given the wrong card and named La La Land the winner for Best Picture when it should have been Moonlight… you might be wondering what could have happened differently and if Focusing would help. Because mistakes can happen to anyone, but might our felt senses keep us from turning them into even bigger mistakes?

Dear Readers:

Mistakes can happen to anyone. You might be in front of 33 million people and handed an envelope you are supposed to open and read at the right moment. But then when you open it… something isn’t right.

I was watching the Oscars Sunday night when Warren Beatty opened the envelope that was supposed to contain the winner of the Best Picture award.

He pulled out the slip of paper. Then he looked in the envelope again, as if there might be something else inside. Then he looked at Faye Dunaway. There was a very long pause and finally he passed the paper to her, and the rest is history.

Impossible to know what was going on inside him but it certainly looked like he had an uneasy feeling that something was wrong.

Have you ever had a feeling like that? And were you ever sorry later that you didn’t listen to your own uneasy feeling?

An uneasy feeling is often a body signal that something is not right. I’ve found that the more I do Focusing in quiet moments and with Focusing partners, the more I trust those uneasy “something isn’t right” feelings when I am in public or on the go.

Just because I have an uneasy feeling doesn’t mean I know what is wrong or what to do about it. But I have learned that I need to pause… right there… because something needs attention.

You may not know yet what to do, but it’s better to pause and say, “Something isn’t right here,” than it is to barrel ahead. Sometimes there is even more at stake than announcing the wrong movie.

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