Are you addicted to your phone, and want to change? Read on…
A Reader writes:
I suffer with phone addiction. It sounds kind of like a joke, but I’m serious. My attention span, my ability to be present, my ability to be alone with myself are all very impaired due to my constant phone use. And when I’m not on my phone, I feel bored.
Would love your help!
Dear Reader:
I know that addiction of any kind is no joke. And you’ve already made the very important first step: Being aware that you have a problem.
Now see if you can avoid shaming and blaming yourself! Because change is possible… and it’s self-acceptance and inner empathy that will open the doors.
When I was working with my addiction to alcohol, I remember how powerful it was to say, “Something in me wants to drink.”
Next, say Hello to that part of you. Make contact, with curiosity. You’d like to get to know it better. You’d like to get to know the story from its point of view.
And it sounds like you’ve already begun! You already know that this is a part of you that gets bored, and doesn’t like to be bored. So when you’re in a gentle contact with this part, invite it to tell you more. Is “bored” the best word to describe what it’s trying to avoid? What is it about “bored” that it has such a hard time with?
You could guess at the answers to these questions… but don’t guess. True transformation and lasting change comes from the power of inner relationship. You are there with this wanting-to-be-on-the-phone part of you. You are sensing it… in your body, if possible… and taking time to get to know it.
It will let you know how it feels… and what is so scary to it about not being on the phone. And then you let it know you hear it.
When this part of you starts to trust you, you’ll be able to invite it to show you what kind of a life it does want for you. And that… I predict… will lead to some really new possibilities. Be curious!
