Do you wonder how empathizing with your parts can help them to change? Read on…
A Reader writes:
How does it help to understand what my parts are feeling?
For example: one part feels regret/ashamed, another part feels resentment/anger. I can see why each part exists but that does not help me to accept the way they are, and it doesn’t help me change them.
Dear Reader:
Parts do take extreme positions… and then they can seem unchangeable. The angry one seems to be facing off against the ashamed/regretful one, and each of them seems to intensify the other.
But that’s what the parts are like when they’re alone with each other. When you step in… that’s you, Self-in-Presence, the one who can listen to both, then the parts can change.
After all, our “parts” are in process… just as we are.
Do you remember the last time someone truly listened to you? When you were able to simply express what you were feeling, without argument, and be heard?
And do you remember what happened then?
When we can be heard for exactly how we are feeling, often those feelings begin to soften, relax, release. The next feeling begins to emerge.
All feelings are in process. All emotions are on the way to something else. They’re in motion… that’s why they’re called e-motions.
And the same is true of your parts.
When you can create the inner environment where your parts feel understood just as they are, that is an environment of change.
Change in that environment is as natural as spring coming after winter. Just be curious and listen… and something new can come.
