Focusing Tip #316 – Turning toward the negative part that it is afraid
“When I finally make a decision, this part shakes its head and says ‘wrong’!” Maggie writes: “I wonder if you could talk…
Focusing Tip #315 – “My falling-in-love feelings are too strong.”
“When I’m attracted to a man, the feelings are so overwhelming…” Anna writes:“When I’m attracted to a man, my feelings are so…
Focusing Tip #314 – “Can I pursue my goal, yet have no agenda?”
“Can I pursue my goal and yet have no agenda?” Pat writes: “As I hold things in me with compassion and no…
Focusing Tip #313 – “Do I treat myself the way others have treated me?”
“Do our parts learn how to act and relate to each other from the environment we grew up in?” Paul writes:“One trouble…
Focusing Tip #312 – Changing Habits Without Pushing
Changing habits without pushing or feeling bad about yourself This is the time of year when many of us — including me…
Focusing Tip #311 – Finding the Space Inside So You Can See All Sides
“Why do we have experiences that too much happiness is followed by doom?” Hannah writes: “Thank you for your answer last week…
Focusing Tip #310 – What if something shows up saying you’d better not be too happy?
“Should I be identifying with the happy feeling if another part of me is cautious about being too happy?” Mandeep writes: “In…
Focusing Tip #309 – Can we listen in an unbiased way AND be in favor of the life-forward direction when it comes?
“I’m actually moving at top speed in the right direction.” Jill writes: “I have a funny, uncomfortable place in me where two…
Focusing Tip #308 – “We cannot move faster than our slowest part.”
“Something in me doesn’t want to stir things up, or rock the boat.” A student in a class today said to me:…
Focusing Tip #307 – “A part wants to know she’ll be safe…”
“The child showing me scary scenes wanted me to hold her hand.” Many of you were interested in my conversation last week…
