Focusing Tip #301 – Inviting the ‘not wanting’
“When using Focusing to facilitate studying math, what is the most fruitful approach?” Jean-Marc writes: “My daughter has a hard time with…
Focusing Tip #300 – Helping scared ‘controller’ parts
“How can gentle listening make a dent in the ways of the monsters?” Graham writes: “A concern I’m sitting with at the…
Focusing Tip #299 – “I get painful surges of engulfing rage.”
“I get these surges of anger, out of nowhere.” Graham writes:“I get these surges of anger, out of nowhere. I can’t say…
Focusing Tip #298 – When you’re caught in an “addiction war”
“I exploded on the addicted part and told it it has been lying to me.” Ruthie writes: “I have done Focusing with…
Focusing Tip #297 – When relaxing feels unsafe…
“I have parts that say things like, ‘If you relax, you will get hurt.’” PT writes:“Here is a question for you. A…
Focusing Tip #296 – Being with emptiness when nothing is coming…
“I had a sense of emptiness, this is not going anywhere, nothing is coming.” Jean writes:“Yesterday, after I had completed my weekly…
Focusing Tip #295 – When Parts Say “I’m Bad”
“I have parts that say things like, ‘I am bad, I did those things wrong.’” Leona writes: “I have lots and lots…
Focusing Tip #294 – How Controlling Parts Impact Happiness
“A little voice says, ‘You can’t be happy. It isn’t going to last.’” Chris writes:“So, something good, exciting etc., happens, and I…
Focusing Tip #293 – How Do I Get Distance/Space From An Issue?
“Finding the right distance” or “setting it out at a distance” — Why not? At a recent workshop a woman raised her…
Focusing Tip #292 – My Felt Sense Goes Away
“I get a felt sense but it goes away after about a second.” Magdalene writes: “I am writing because I need advice…
