Focusing Tip #320 – Holding on to Sadness
“I am addicted to sadness, longing, self-pity, wishing, dreaming, etc…” A Reader writes:Recently I identified myself as being addicted to the emotion…
Focusing Tip #319 – Deeply Listening to Childhood Triggers
“When the trigger is from my childhood, it causes me anxiety all day long.” Jenny writes:“I have a question. When I Focus…
Focusing Tip #318 – Focusing Partners: Presence With No Agenda
“Wouldn’t a silent Focusing partner be the ultimate in radical acceptance?” Joe writes: “I know you focus on ‘radical acceptance’. Letting whatever…
Focusing Tip #317 – I fall for the uninterested guys…
“I fall for the uninterested guys and I’m not interested in the nice ones… A few weeks ago we heard from Anna,…
Focusing Tip #316 – Turning toward the negative part that it is afraid
“When I finally make a decision, this part shakes its head and says ‘wrong’!” Maggie writes: “I wonder if you could talk…
Focusing Tip #315 – “My falling-in-love feelings are too strong.”
“When I’m attracted to a man, the feelings are so overwhelming…” Anna writes:“When I’m attracted to a man, my feelings are so…
Focusing Tip #314 – “Can I pursue my goal, yet have no agenda?”
“Can I pursue my goal and yet have no agenda?” Pat writes: “As I hold things in me with compassion and no…
Focusing Tip #313 – “Do I treat myself the way others have treated me?”
“Do our parts learn how to act and relate to each other from the environment we grew up in?” Paul writes:“One trouble…
Focusing Tip #312 – Changing Habits Without Pushing
Changing habits without pushing or feeling bad about yourself This is the time of year when many of us — including me…
Focusing Tip #311 – Finding the Space Inside So You Can See All Sides
“Why do we have experiences that too much happiness is followed by doom?” Hannah writes: “Thank you for your answer last week…
