On Relating – In and Out of Therapy

– MP3 Audio Course –

with Eugene Gendlin & Ann Weiser Cornell

On Relating — In & Out of Therapy is for anyone who wants to explore different ways of relating with other people. We discuss each topic first in therapy settings and then in the more complex realm of close personal relationships. So many difficulties in relationship occur when we express feelings with trust and honesty, yet the other person feels hurt or angry, withdraws or attacks.

“We happen in the environment.” By that, Gendlin means that any living body is interaction. It’s not that we have bodies and then they inhale air and take in food; there’s not even a single cell that isn’t already interaction! Just as we can’t survive without air and food, we also can’t develop as persons unless we interact and are interacted with, from the very start.

Additional Information

What You’ll Learn:

  • How to stay in touch with our whole selves in a conflict situation, and why that is key
  • How getting stronger – inside and outside – enables us to have more room for the other person and for ourselves
  • Why it’s so much easier to treat clients with genuinely felt acceptance than our own family members
  • Some very specific ways to behave in relationships so that stopped and stuck interactions can complete in new ways

About Digital Downloads

When you purchase the digital download version, you’ll receive an email after checkout with a link to download the MP3s and the supplemental reading list, which you can then save to your computer.

Total Length: 6 hours 18 minutes
File Size: 425.1 MB

Audio was recorded during an actual phone seminar and has been edited. Sound quality may vary.

*Please Note: Each purchased digital copy is licensed to one individual for personal use only. 

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About the Focusing & Thinking Series

The Focusing and Thinking Series is a series of phone seminars offered by Gene Gendlin and Ann Weiser Cornell that explore the implications of Gene Gendlin’s Philosophy of the Implicit and the Focusing process to a broad range of topics including relationships, creativity, social change, psychotherapy, dreams, and thinking.

Ann Weiser Cornell was getting her PhD in Linguistics at the University of Chicago when she met and learned Focusing from Eugene Gendlin.  In 1980, Gene invited Ann to assist with his Focusing workshops. This started her on a path to become a Focusing teacher, and in 1990, Ann became the first person to support herself full-time as a Focusing teacher.  Today, Ann is internationally recognized as one of the leading innovators and theoreticians of Focusing. She is the author of The Power of Focusing, The Radical Acceptance of Everything and Focusing in Clinical Practice: The Essence of Change.


Eugene T. Gendlin was a groundbreaking philosopher and psychotherapist who has been honored 4 times by the American Psychological Association for his development of Experiential Psychotherapy. He received his Ph.D. in philosophy from the University of Chicago and taught there from 1963 to 1995. His book, Focusing, has sold over 500,000 copies and is in 17 languages. His other books include Let Your Body Interpret Your Dreams, Focusing-Oriented Psychotherapy, A Process Model and Experiencing & the Creation of Meaning. He was also a warm brilliant man who lit up a room with the quality of his listening.