A compelling new way to think about, relate to, and transform the most stuck problems in life…


Untangling

How You Can Transform What’s Impossibly Stuck

by Barbara McGavin & Ann Weiser Cornell


Are there problems in your life that seem like they’ll never change?

It turns out being stuck is not an endpoint, it’s a clue.

Wherever there is something in your life that is impossible to think, feel, or do, you’re finding the exact spot where the next steps in your life are waiting to unfold.

It doesn’t matter how long ago it got all jammed up. The right next step of your life can still happen. And when you understand that transformation happens where something in your life feels impossible, it becomes possible to lean toward what feels bad. You can gather it to you, listen to it, love it. The place that seems so hopelessly stuck will untangle itself when you give it the attention it needs.

What is the attention it needs and how do you provide it? That’s what this book is about.

Based on 30 years of teaching, practice, and exploration, Untangling shows you how to create the environment in which impasse can transform into flow.

If you’ve:

  • tried everything you can think of to fix them, but nothing’s worked
  • hoped the whole thing would just go away, “If I could just stop doing this or feeling that, everything would be so much better.”
  • felt painfully pulled in different directions by feelings that often contradict each other…

…you have what we call a Tangle. And trying harder, pep talks, pushing through, having more discipline, and making resolutions won’t help.

So what will help?

Let us show you how to enable what is hopelessly stuck to shift spontaneously, organically, and in ways that are surprisingly better than anything you’d imagined

The Untangling® Method

It all started 30 years ago, when we were struggling with depression, writer’s block, food, and alcohol. What we discovered was that all these issues were fundamentally the same kind of problem: a Tangle.

We developed processes that would enable even the most impossibly stuck Tangles to untangle themselves. We tested them first on ourselves and then with others – with remarkable results. We called our method Untangling®.

Until now, only the students in our advanced training programs have been able to learn Untangling. But because this practice is so powerful and has done so much to change people’s lives, we wanted to share it with as many people as possible. So we wrote a book.

In this book, along with our own stories, you’ll learn:

  • What a Tangle is and how it got tangled up in the first place
  • Why everything you’ve tried to change your Tangle doesn’t work
  • Six Patterns of Impossible Stuckness: Hijack, Takeover, Rebellion, Intimidation, Despair, and Longing
  • Five Powers of Presence that enable any Tangle to transform


Untangling is a compelling new way to think about, relate to, and transform the most stuck problems in life. You’ll discover how to create the precise kind of environment that enables your life to move forward in startling new ways.

Ann and Barbara

Ann Weiser Cornell & Barbara McGavin

About the Authors

Barbara McGavin and Ann Weiser Cornell have been friends since 1983. In 1994 their teaching partnership took a big leap when together they began discovering the processes of change that became Untangling®. Since then they’ve had the pleasure of offering Untangling® retreats and online classes for people seeking transformation all over the world. They are also the co-developers of Inner Relationship Focusing. Barbara has a background in humanistic psychology, teaching, fine art, and graphic design. Ann has a background in linguistics and humanistic psychology. They both love reading and knitting. Barbara divides her time between Bath, England, and Citrus Heights, California. Ann lives in Berkeley, California.

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Untangling – How You Can Transform What’s Impossibly Stuck

For Additional Support: Audio Explorations

These 13 Audio Explorations were created and read by Barbara and Ann to accompany the Untangling book, so you can experience the process applied to your own Tangle.

Ranging from “Getting to Know Your Tangle” to “Sensing What’s Possible Now,” these explorations include the entire range of the Untangling process. Beyond just reading about Untangling, with these explorations you experience Untangling yourself. Includes a workbook with transcripts of the explorations and space for your notes.

Provided as MP3 files + a Downloadable Workbook

Order Your Copy and Start Untangling

Available formats: eBook, Paperback, and Audiobook
Add the Audio Explorations for additional support.

$9.99

Add the Audio Explorations: $114.00

eBook details

The ebook is provided as an “EPUB” file. This file type can be opened by ebook readers, including Books (Apple), Kobo, Google Play, Nook, Calibre, Sumatra, Adobe Digital Editions, etc.

Audio Explorations provided as MP3s + PDF

$15.99

Add the Audio Explorations: $114.00

Paperback details

  • 240 pages
  • 6″x9″ Paperback book
  • Calluna Press, 2024
  • Audio Explorations provided as MP3s + PDF

International Orders: If you are ordering the print book only, you’ll pay much lower shipping if you buy the book on your local Amazon site.

$19.99

Add the Audio Explorations: $114.00

Audiobook details

The audiobook is provided as a downloadable M4B file.

  • 8 hours, 36 minutes, 244.15 MB
  • Audio Explorations provided as MP3s + PDF

FAQs

eBook:

A link to download your ebook will display after checkout. The link will also be available in your order receipt (emailed to the address used during checkout).

The eBook is an .EPUB file. This file type can be opened by ebook readers, including Books (Apple), Kobo, Google Play, Nook, Calibre, Sumatra, Adobe Digital Editions, etc

Audiobook:

If you are easily frustrated by technology, we recommend purchasing the audiobook through Amazon/Audible, Spotify, or wherever you normally purchase your audiobooks.

If you’re a bit more adventurous, the following documentation should be helpful.

The downloadable file we provide is compatible with audiobook platforms where you can import your own files.

The file will open in your Books app.

To get the best experience, you’ll need to download an audiobook app. We’ve had good experiences with the BookPlayer app (it is free).

How to:

  1. Download the audiobook file
  2. Download and open the BookPlayer app
  3. Click the “+ Add”
  4. Select Import files
  5. Locate and select the downloaded book file, then click “Open” in the top right corner
  6. An Import window will appear, click “Done” in the top right
  7. Select Library in the “Import 1 file into” window

The file will then import – might take a moment – and be playable.

Windows Media Player is able to open M4B files.

How to:

  1. Download the audiobook file
  2. Right click on the file and select ‘open with‘, you’ll then get a list of available programs that your computer suggests may be able to play the file. If Windows Media Player isn’t there, select ‘choose default progam‘
  3. Browse to Windows Media Player, select it and click ‘ok‘
  4. You may get a message saying that the file extension might not be recognized, ignore this message and click ‘yes’ to try and play the content.
  5. The file should then play. You can also try this method with any other available media player on your computer or device to force it to try and open the file.

To get the best experience, you’ll need to download an audiobook app. The Smart AudioBook Player App is free and has good reviews.

How to:

  1. Download the audiobook file and place it in a subfolder under the “My Audiobooks” folder on your phone.
  2. Every book must be in a separate subfolder, even if it consists of only one file.
  3. In Library→Settings→Root folder select the “My Audiobooks” folder.
  4. Once finished, don’t forget to press the “Update” button at the top of the Library window.

Audio Explorations:

After checkout, two links will display after checkout:

  • The audio file (MP3s)
  • The Workbook (PDF)

The links will also be available in your order receipt (emailed to the address used during checkout).

For additional information, have a look at our Digital Downloads FAQs.

Here are the ISBNs you can use to order copies of Untangling:

eBook: 978-0-9721058-6-6

Paperback: 979-8-9905392-0-4

Audiobook: 979-8-9905392-1-1