Focusing Tip #574 – “Even though I get hopeless and impatient I do enjoy being compassionate with myself.”
How long does it take to untangle a tangle? As I write this I remember what I am saying to myself a lot these days: “I can be the way I am for as long as I need to be!!!”
So I know there cannot be a day, time, or month answer to my question. Even though I get hopeless and impatient I do enjoy being compassionate toward myself!
That’s so good, that you enjoy being compassionate toward yourself! Compassion and curiosity are big keys, aren’t they?
The question “how long does it take?” doesn’t really have an answer. As you already know!
But I can give you some tips that are likely to make it take less long…
- There is a part of us that will not consider us “untangled” until we are 100% perfect. But actually, there are many small shifts and forward movements along the way. Like… at least this time you noticed sooner! So celebrate those small steps and give your body a chance to feel good about them.
- Using Presence language always helps. So… “I am sensing something in me that gets hopeless and impatient.” When you speak of it that way, it is easier to turn toward it and get to know it better. Leading, ultimately, to change.
- You are using that great phrase from my friend Barbara McGavin, “You can be the way you are as long as you need to be.” But you aren’t quite using it the way we’d recommend. We’d use it toward any part of you that you’ve discovered is entangled in your tangle. Maybe a part of you that keeps reaching for dessert when you swore you wouldn’t do that today?
What happens when you say to a part of you that it can be the way it is for as long as it needs to be, is that you get stronger. Your ability to be the strong, compassionate, curious Self is enhanced. And that leads ultimately to the fastest change we can expect… even if we don’t know when!