Focusing Tip #548 – “When does the person fix the problem? Doesn’t she have to address her addictive behavior?”
“Even after a process that feels deep and profound, don’t I need to make a plan and decide to change?” A Reader…
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Focusing Tip #547 – “I can’t put a gentle hand in the center of my back without being a contortionist!”
What if you want to bring a gentle touch to something that needs caring in the center of your back? Monica writes:…
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Focusing Tip #546 – “I want to be able to explain to my clients the kind of acceptance that leads to wellbeing and liberation.”
If you have a client struggling with chronic pain, do you suggest that they accept the pain? Leslie writes: I am a…
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Focusing Tip #545 – If you’ve got a part that insists on being tense and vigilant so you won’t be hurt again, what can you do?
“And that is where I get stuck. This part of me doesn’t want me to go any further.” Monica writes: In Focusing…
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Focusing Tip #544 – What kind of Focusing questions might help me find the right way to express myself?
If you know your work needs to change, but you don’t know how, can you find out by Focusing? Kathleen writes: I…
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Focusing Tip #543 – How soon after recognizing a trigger of sadness or depression would be the best time to do a healing process like Focusing?
“Is there a time after recognizing the trigger of your sadness … before seeking to restore and heal through active Focusing?” Anne…
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Focusing Tip #542 – Worried that if you do Focusing, you’ll distance yourself from your emotions and from life?
“If I use Focusing do I attempt to create distance between me and my feelings…?” Michelle writes: I notice that I often…
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Focusing Tip #541 – Wondering how to work toward your goals without becoming your own tyrant?
“You should exercise more… and if you don’t, you’re a lazy slob.” How tyrants create rebels… At the start of a new…
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Focusing Tip #540 – Does it ever feel like being with your family is being trapped in a web of unspoken messages?
“This year, because I had learned Focusing, it was worse…” Holiday tangles… Today I am remembering the very first Christmas after I…
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Focusing Tip #539 – Are you in a struggle with feelings like anxiety or resistance but you don’t even notice that it’s happening?
“I have a very hard time getting identified with anxiety and resistance but don’t notice until after several days of struggling…” Michelle…
