May Focusing be a constant friend to you in all that you do. Of course, the real friend is your own self–and Focusing lets you be deeply in touch with that trustworthy guide.
Tips for Focusing Alone
Last night I started a new Focusing Alone phone class and some great new tips came from the participants. Here’s one: to hold something in your hand while Focusing alone, and squeeze it when you feel yourself drifting away from your body.
Another one: gently touch, with an open palm, the place in your body where you feel something. That touch communicates that you are with that place.
Tips for Focusing with a Partner
Remember that Focusing with a partner is not like conversation. You don’t need to keep your partner entertained or even informed. What if you are worried about your partner’s reaction to something you might say in your Focusing? You may need to silently acknowledge your feelings, saying hello to the part of you that is concerned about your partner’s reaction. Exercise your right to be silent about anything that isn’t ready to be spoken.
Matching this, when you are the partner to someone who is Focusing, remember they have “the right to remain silent.” That’s why I suggest the guideline of never asking questions. What the Focuser reveals is totally in his or her own power. We can’t go faster than our slowest part is ready for.
