What if you try saying the recommended words, and it makes no difference? Read on…
A Reader writes:
I followed your advice to say Hello to a part feeling anxious. I felt OK doing that, but it was a bit hard to really embody it. For me it felt like words only. How can I get so I really feel the “Hello”?
Dear Reader:
You’re absolutely right to realize that it’s not saying the words that matters. It’s what happens — in your body, in your inner relationship — from saying the words.
So… good for you for noticing that you’re not yet embodying this step of saying Hello to something that you’re feeling.
What can you do to embody it more? Repeat the words… say them again slowly… and as you do, notice what difference it makes inside.
Now, even after two or three repetitions you may not notice a difference. That’s partly to do with this being a part that feels anxious. I’ve noticed that anxious parts can have a hard time noticing anything other than their anxiety!
But if you are calm, steady, and patient, the quality of your presence will get through to this part of you.
It’s not so much the words as that quality of presence that will finally be received. When “it” know that you are there, that really makes all the difference.
