When Hell is Other People

Whether You’re…

Holding yourself back from being fully present in your life because of other people

Critical of yourself—or others—and you don’t want to be

Longing to have better relationships with the people who are closest to you

Join us and change the way your interactions with others affect your energy, your outlook, and your ability to enjoy your life!

“Life would be great — if it weren’t for other people!”

Relationships with others can be sources of aggravation, annoyance, anxiety, and shame. 

Perhaps you live or work with someone who drives you crazy with habits that never seem to change.

Perhaps you hesitate to speak out in a group meeting because you’re worried what other people might think about you.

Perhaps other people’s emotions pull you in, until you feel you either have to put up a wall or spend your time helping them feel better.

Perhaps you hide what is deeply true about you for fear you’ll be rejected if others see it.

For whatever reason, when it comes to other people, you find yourself pulling back, closing off, protecting yourself. 

When it’s hard to feel understood or seen by others, you might decide it’s better not even to try.

And if you worry that other people will get angry with you, you might always be second-guessing what you have to say.

Being around other people might be primarily an experience of hiding who you are and trying to be safe.

And that’s understandable—but it’s also a pity. Because your relationships with others CAN be sources of great joy and deep fulfillment.

Exploring your reactions to other people can expand your ability to be yourself, in all kinds of ways. You can be more creative, more curious, more open, more resilient.

It IS possible to grow, develop, and be more fully yourself in the presence of others. And there is so much richness there! Great relationships with other people is one of the primary sources of a strong immune system!

What I’ve learned is that other people are our mirrors – they show us ourselves, including the parts of us we find hard to see.

Even our most difficult relationships can become our teachers.

Not only our intimate partnerships but also parents, children, friends, employers and employees, clients and colleagues – all can be sources of discovery, growth, and transformation.

Amazingly, as we change, so do the relationships and so do the other people.

“Hell is other people.” – Jean-Paul Sartre

“Hell is other people—and so is Heaven.” – Ann Weiser Cornell

⭐️ Get a Free Taste with a Mini-Course ⭐️

Want a first-hand experience of what this course can offer you? Listen in to a free 60-minute webinar, where we’ll:

  • Learn how our critical reactions to other people can be a source of understanding our own needs
  • Explore how to be kind and compassionate to the very parts of us we feel we have to hide from others
  • Understand more about the origins of anxiety and fear of other people, and how that can shift

Join me in this course where I’ll show you how to:

  • Turn your reactions to other people into sources of self-discovery and healing
  • Grow your ability to feel safe in the presence of others
  • Take in the positives you actually do receive from other people
  • Enjoy being exactly who you are whether you’re with others or alone

This course could be right for you if:

  •  You find yourself holding back from being fully present in your life because of other people
  • You’re critical of yourself—or others—and you don’t want to be
  •  You long to have better relationships with the people who are closest to you

About Your Teacher

Ann Weiser Cornell created Inner Relationship Focusing with her long-time colleague, Barbara McGavin, to help people learn to listen compassionately to all the inner voices. Along the way, Ann and Barbara developed a radical new process for relating to the self-blaming voices inside them. It changed their lives, and it became their mission to help others transform as well.

For over 35 years now, Ann’s been teaching this practical, revolutionary process to people all over the world. With this course, you get the benefit of Ann’s expertise and the chance to practice the simple, yet revolutionary process of Focusing with her gentle, compassionate guidance.

Ann is the author of several books, including Focusing in Clinical Practice: The Essence of ChangeThe Power of Focusing, and The Radical Acceptance of Everything. Today she is internationally recognized as one of the leading innovators and theoreticians of Focusing.

Are you ready to feel more resilient, curious, open, and creative in the presence of other people?

Even the toughest relationships can be sources of great joy and fulfillment. Join us and explore how you can:

Grow Your Ability to Feel Safe in the Presence of Others

Be More ‘You’ Whether You’re with People or Alone

Experience Relationships As Sources of Discovery, Growth & Transformation

Enroll for Your Course Here

Registration is currently closed. Please contact us with any questions.

“We have always known what would have been right to receive from other people—and it’s never too late to feel cared about, safe, and truly seen.” – Ann Weiser Cornell

Additional Information

How Online Courses Work

We use Zoom, an online video conference platform, to connect you to other students and the teacher. Before the class starts you will receive a Zoom link to use each time the class meets. You can join us via your camera-equipped computer, tablet, or smart phone. Prefer not to be on video? You can turn off your camera. Don’t want to call via computer? You can call in by phone. Zoom is free and easy to use. You will be able to sign on in advance to make sure you can access it, but we’ve had very few problems with it. Students also receive access to a private webpage where course materials can be found.


Open to anyone.

Continuing Education Credit & Record of Completion

Course meets the qualifications for 8 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. PCE#62524

There is a $25 administrative fee for CE Credits. Records of Completion are awarded at the end of the course upon completion of all requirements and the course evaluation. (If you don’t want CE Credits but would like a Record of Completion, the $25 fee does still apply.)

Eligibility for CE Credits requires at least 80% live attendance. Missed classes must be made up.

Cancellation and Refund Policy

Up to 14 days before the first day of class: Just let us know and we'll refund your course fee. Or you can choose to apply the entire course fee towards a future class with us.

Cancellations received 13 days or fewer before class begins: No refund, sorry.

When Something Doesn't Go As You'd Hoped...

We are always open to discussing experiences with our courses that didn’t work for you or didn’t go the way you expected. Depending on the circumstances, you may want to email your course instructor, the staff member in charge of your course, or Ann Weiser Cornell. Email addresses for all these people will be supplied on registration. We will work with you to find a way to meet your needs.

Do I need to attend every class meeting?

You can enroll in this course and listen to the recordings that are available 1-2 days after each class meeting. We call this remote attendance. Please Note: If you attend remotely, you are ineligible for CE Credits.

Is this a course with partnership practice?

No, partnerships are not available for this course.

Tell me more about the classroom environment and how course content is provided?

Sure. This course is taught using an online video conference system called Zoom. You’ll receive all the details you need to join us via Zoom prior to the first class meeting. You’ll also receive access to our course platform (Ruzuku) where homework assignments and class recordings can be found. Participants will be able to communicate via an online forum in Ruzuku.



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