Are you blocked about money? What a perfect time to release that block… But how? Read on!
"I don't earn more than pocket money"
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A reader writes: "I am 52 years old. I know that what I'm doing now is my destiny. I have an income from it but it's very small! I did two focusing sessions with my partner, on my attitude towards money. I saw and felt a big river that joins the ocean. I saw and felt an image of golden coins in my purse. But I feel that there is more – something that can explain the realty in which I don't earn more than pocket money."
Dear Reader
A big river joining the ocean! The feeling of golden coins in your purse! How great to let your Focusing process show you the "wanted feeling," and really let yourself receive that. This is surely a really important part of releasing a block to receiving money for doing what you love.
But there is also the other side. If we only invite the positive wanted feelings, we are skipping over a key aspect… and no wonder things don't change. (This is the problem with systems of positive affirmation like "The Secret"–they skip what I am about to talk about.)
When there is a block, we need to be Self-in-Presence and invite the part that is in the way of the desired outcome. We need to invite that part into awareness with no criticism or judgment, but with an assumption that there is some good reason for its block, from its point of view.
When you invite something in you that's in the way, no one can predict what will come. But here are some possibilities. You might discover a part of you that holds the belief that no one gets money for doing what they love. You might find something in you that doesn't want to spoil something beautiful with the taint of making money. You might find a part of you that is afraid of revealing so much of yourself in your new profession. It wouldn't be logical. It might be from long ago.
And what you do next with it makes all the difference…
"I sense how you feel, tell me more"
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Perhaps the hardest thing about Focusing with a block is to stay in listening mode, and simply hear, with empathy, what the blocking part is feeling.
There is such a temptation to drop out of Self-in-Presence and start "persuading" the blocking part that it is wrong in what it believes. The problem with giving in to this temptation is that it does not work. The blocking part is not in place because of "reason," and giving it good reasons will not change it– in our experience.
What does bring change is to stay in Focusing mode and in contact with the part "in the way," sensing what it feels like, how it feels from its point of view, what it's worried about or what it's protecting from. And then staying with that, letting it know you hear and sense how it feels, and inviting it to show or tell more.
Staying with this part and sensing and symbolizing how it feels allows it to "carry forward," which will happen in ways that cannot be predicted. All we can say for sure is that we need to be Self-in-Presence for something really new to happen–and it will.