Do
you find yourself locked into stuckness that won't change? I'd like to
tell you about the power of a very special word–the word "something."
Read on…
What's the trouble? What feels stuck?
However you are describing the problem, I bet you'll feel a significant shift if you disidentify from the parts of you locked in the struggle.
Disidentifying
feels like stepping back but still being connected–and you can do it
with the help of my favorite word — "something."
I like to call "something" my $100,000 word — because I wouldn't sell it for $100,000. That's how much I love it and need it to do my work of helping people get unblocked. Let me show you how it works.
Sam
described his issue this way: "I'm shooting myself in the foot. I have
to get the paper done by the deadline, but I'm using every excuse not
to do it. I must want to fail."
Sam is seriously suffering,
locked in the inner struggle of stuckness. But I see a way out–and it
starts with the word "something."
The Power of "Something"
I invite Sam to shift his language and say: "I have to get the paper done, but something in me is using every excuse not to do it."
He tries saying it this way–and an odd, inward expression comes over his face. His hand moves spontaneously to his chest.
"It's here," he says. "Ah," I say.
Now that Sam can sense the something in him
that is using every excuse to not write the paper, I can show him how
to sit with it with compassionate curiosity. He will be able to drop
the frustrated guesses he was making about this part of him ("shooting
myself in the foot"–"must want to fail") and instead, listen to what
that part of him is feeling and wanting.
Invariably, people
discover that the blocking parts are trying to help them somehow–and
in the discovery, the struggle begins to melt.
The process takes
time and patience and the learning of a few new skills–but it all
starts with that first moment of change, that shift from "I" to
"something in me."
I love that word "something"!