What if you know you have to change your life but you don’t know what to change it to? Read on…
A Reader writes:
If I listen to my felt sense, I know I have to change my profession or at least the work I do. But facing that change is scary. I really need the money from my current job, and what if I can’t find something else I’m successful at?
Dear Reader:
As I wrote in last week’s Tip, sometimes we get an inner message that we need to change our life.
But that doesn’t mean that change is easy. And it also doesn’t mean it has to happen right away.
Even if the ultimate result will be a big change, the steps we take toward it can be small and incremental. That fits with Focusing very well, because it means you have time after every small step to sense how it feels.
So you know you need to change your work. AND that change is scary, partly because you don’t know what you will do instead, and if it will give you the same financial security.
Here is what I would suggest:
- Make a time to sit down and sense within yourself. Get grounded, feel your body, here and now.
- Bring up the question of work. You will probably feel the inner “No” to your current work that you already felt.
- Now sense for where your “Yes” is pointing you. Be patient. This is likely to be an unclear vague feeling. Like: “something where I’m not sitting all day,” or “something with more people contact.”
- Now ask yourself: “What is one small step I could take to find out more about jobs like that?”
- Go do that! Find out something about that kind of job, interview someone who is in it… and then repeat the steps.
Changing your life is a balance between inner and outer. Go inside to get more contact with what you want. Then go outside to learn what is out there. Then back inside to sense freshly with the new information you’ve gained.
Small steps, each one feeling right, add up to big life change.
