Focusing Tip #744 – “What happens when there is no shift?”

Focusing Tip #744 – “What happens when there is no shift?”
March 17, 2021 Ann Weiser Cornell
What can we conclude if several Focusing sessions on the same issue don't bring any change?

Focusing Tip #744 – “What happens when there is no shift?”

What can we conclude if several Focusing sessions on the same issue don’t bring any change? Read on…


Richard writes:

What happens when there is no shift, just a temporary relaxing, even after several Focusing sessions on the same issue?

Dear Richard:

Such a good question… because we do expect Focusing to lead to real change, not just temporary relief. So when it doesn’t, we have a right to be curious about why not.

I can think of two reasons why you wouldn’t get a shift even after several Focusing sessions on the same issue.

One reason is that your process might need more time.

A single Focusing session is part of a larger process—like a paragraph within a chapter of a book. You can probably feel within the session itself that this is true. At the end, you might have a sense like “This needs more time… and I’ll come back to it.”

There is often a “learning to trust” kind of process that unfolds within several Focusing sessions. We learn how valuable it is to give ourselves the time we need.

And the second reason I can think of is that there might be an invisible part in the way of change.

Like an impatient part, or a fixing part, or a part that will only allow certain answers but not others. In other words, a worried part! In which case, turning to acknowledge that, and maybe Focusing with it for a while, will probably bring a loosening of the whole thing.

One way to detect this kind of invisible part is to be curious about the quality with which you are accompanying your Focusing process.

“Am I anxious for this to change? Ah… then let me say Hello to something in me that is anxious for this to change… And now I can be with all of this, with patience and quiet compassion.”

Oh… and there is one other possibility… and that is that the issue you are Focusing with might be a Tangle… More about that later!

 


 

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