When It’s Hard to Do Things
-Do you ever find it hard to DO things? Ever play games or stare at a screen instead of getting up and doing what you need to do? And do you feel bad about it later? That’s what happened with my student Lola. Doing anything was a struggle for her. Washing dishes felt like a big effort. Weeding the garden got put off again and again. And doing her taxes — oh my gosh — a truly monumental…
Focusing Tip #697 – When you feel the urge to eat or drink or do something…
-Focusing Tip #697 – When you feel the urge to eat or drink or do something… What can help when we feel the urge to eat to manage our feelings of anxiety? Read on… Readers are asking: Something in me wants to “Do Something” constantly, and I’m struggling to settle into this vast amount of time on my hands. Something in me wants to go eat despite having just eaten. Dear Readers: Are you feeling extra anxious these days? No wonder! The thing is,…
When You Get Shamed For Saying No
-These are not easy times to live in! There are tensions all over, serious things to be concerned about. But even if what you’re concerned about is serious and real, you don’t have to let anxiety take you over and make you reactive to the other people in your life. YOU can still be inwardly peaceful. And that has a positive impact on everyone around you… as my student Steve discovered. In this episode, you’ll get an exercise to…
Focusing Tip #696 – “How do I manage my feelings during this health crisis?”
-Focusing Tip #696 – “How do I manage my feelings during this health crisis?” Is there something that can help when we feel anxious and powerless about what’s going on in the world? Read on… Many People are Asking: I have a constant feeling of anxiety and dread. There are so many things I am worried about. How do I manage my feelings during this health crisis? Is there any way to feel calmer and/or to care for myself emotionally? We don’t even know…
Focusing Tip #695 – “The strong sensation makes it impossible to feel any subtle sensation…”
-Focusing Tip #695 – “The strong sensation makes it impossible to feel any subtle sensation…” What if a strong painful sensation is all you can feel? Read on… Anna writes: I was reading your book and trying to do Focusing on my health. Any time I relax and try to bring my attention to what’s happening in the body I become more aware of the pain at the center of my chest, above the stomach, like a stone. This strong sensation makes it impossible…
Focusing Tip #694 – “What if all I feel is numbness?”
-Focusing Tip #694 – “What if all I feel is numbness?” What if I want to get to know my feelings but I don’t have any? Read on… Ben writes: I’m 60 and have experienced numbness – both bodily and emotionally – since my mid teens. I understand there is a part of me just wants to protect me from overwhelm but I can’t sense that or turn to it. It’s like that numbness creates its own camouflage. It’s been all I’ve known for…
When You Can’t Help
-Other people… they can be annoying, infuriating, aggravating. They can be stubborn. They can be intrusive when we want to be alone, they can be distant when we long for some acknowledgement. They can drive us crazy! One of the most painful situations of all occurs when a loved one is suffering and we wish we could help, but we can’t… In this episode of Inner Peace for Challenging Times, you’ll hear how my student Dora was able to…
Focusing Tip #693 – “Can Focusing help with anxiety if you don’t know the cause?”
-Focusing Tip #693 – “Can Focusing help with anxiety if you don’t know the cause?” How do you work with your anxiety when the cause of it isn’t clear? Read on… Jim writes: Can Focusing help with anxiety? What if the cause of the anxiety isn’t immediately clear? I might be able to “figure it out,” but I don’t feel a direct connection. Dear Jim: It’s not much fun to feel anxiety, I know from my own experience. But one good thing about anxiety…
Focusing Tip #692 – “When I get triggered my thoughts explode…”
-Focusing Tip #692 – “When I get triggered my thoughts explode…” What if you’re trying to feel in your body but all you get is emotions and thoughts? Read on… Jo writes: Often when a situation really triggers me emotionally, the primary reaction is an explosion of energy in my head, ideas jumping in all directions. Underlying there is anger about the situation and fear of losing dear persons in my life. It triggers this energy in the head, but it is difficult to…
When You’re Stopped by Fear
-Does fear ever stop you from doing what you’d like to do? Today, I have to confess something to you. There are times when I get so scared that the fear completely consumes me. And until I used Inner Relationship Focusing to shift my fear, I’d get increasingly obsessed with trying to arrange things so I’d never be in the situation that scared me so much. What is that terrifying situation? Turbulence when flying. I don’t mind flying……
