Focusing Tip #841 – When the felt sense moves around the body
-Focusing Tip #841 – When the felt sense moves around the body What if the person who is Focusing keeps moving awareness around from sensation to sensation? Read on… A Reader writes: I’m adding Focusing to my work with clients, often with great results. But one thing that happens I find disconcerting. The person starts to describe a sensation in one place in the body, and then suddenly that’s gone and there’s another one somewhere else. I don’t know whether to try to bring…
Focusing Tip #840 – “A part of me keeps ruminating about hate groups”
-Focusing Tip #840 – “A part of me keeps ruminating about hate groups” If a part of you keeps worrying about scary futures, and it doesn’t help to tell it you are safe, what can you do? Read on… Illona writes: How can I work with a part that keeps ruminating with images of the hate groups that have been gaining ground in my country? I know the positive intention is to keep me safe but letting it know I’m safe now doesn’t seem…
Relationships: Finding an Empowered Response to a Difficult Situation
-We can pause and find an empowered response to a difficult situation… My student, Abigail, grew up with parents who had terrible fights. She’s determined not to repeat that in her own marriage. But it’s hard because…
Focusing Tip #839 – “Can I follow my body’s impulses to move?”
-Focusing Tip #839 – “Can I follow my body’s impulses to move?” What if you have a burst of energy when you’re Focusing, and you want to move? Read on… Dhruv writes: When I do Focusing, often it feels that a sudden burst of energy has released and it does not feel very comfortable. There is a very strong urge to move my body, to stretch my arms and legs, twist my core. My question is, while I’m Focusing, if I have a very…
Relationships: What We Can Learn From Our Criticisms of Others
-Our criticisms of others can be a deep well of self-understanding and change. Especially in our close relationships. Here is someone you love… and yet they drive you crazy because they… leave their socks on the floor… don’t listen… can’t keep track of their keys… Oh, the list is endless! It’s not my department to suggest how you might talk to that other person about what is bothering you. What I find fascinating is how I can use…
Untangling Musings: How to tell if you need more Self-in-Presence
-How to tell if you need to cultivate Self-in-Presence — right now! In the midst of life it can be hard to tell if you’re lost your Self-in-Presence and have gotten “Parts-y” instead. Once you recognize that a Part has taken over, there are some things you can do to cultivate more Self-in-Presence (see below). But recognizing that isn’t…
Focusing Tip #838 – “My felt senses aren’t new or fresh”
-Focusing Tip #838 – “My felt senses aren’t new or fresh” Are you getting stuck because a part of you doubts what you feel? Read on… Yun writes: I have something I would like to ask, it’s about the process feeling stuck. There’s a part of me that doesn’t trust or believe what I sense or feel with my felt sense. It feels that this felt sense showed up before already and it is not new or fresh. It says, “You are just repeating…
Focusing Tip #837 – “How do I trust that I can hold all the feelings that may come?”
-Focusing Tip #837 – “How do I trust that I can hold all the feelings that may come?” Might getting in touch with feelings be too much for you? Read on… A Reader writes: When we are journeying internally to bring to surface feelings that have been packed away for many years, how do we trust that we can hold all that will surface? Dear Reader: That’s exactly the question that Barbara McGavin and I set out to answer when we created Inner Relationship…
Focusing Tip #836 – Do we need to integrate our parts?
-Focusing Tip #836 – Do we need to integrate our parts? What happens to parts once we contact them? Read on… A Reader writes: I appreciated hearing you talk about Inner Relationship Focusing, and working with parts. Could you talk about the idea of integrating parts once they are identified, understood, and known? Dear Reader: I have never seen the need to integrate parts! “But wait,” you ask— “Does that mean that parts remain as they are, as parts, unintegrated in the whole self?”…
