Focusing Tip #632 – “I keep on gaining weight”
-Focusing Tip #632 – “I keep on gaining weight…” Do you have the urge to over-indulge in food or drink? Especially when you are stressed? Read on… A Reader writes: I eat when I’m stressed, and I know I shouldn’t, but there are just so many stresses these days, and I find myself snacking on and on after I promised I wouldn’t. I keep gaining weight, and it feels out of control. I know there is this self-indulging part of me but I don’t…
Focusing Tip #631 – “My parts don’t answer me.”
-Focusing Tip #631 – “My parts don’t answer me…” How do your parts let you know if they feel safe enough to have a conversation with you? Read on… Rachel writes: In Focusing, my parts will show themselves in detail. But every time I sense how they would like me to be with them, they just don’t answer. Could this possibly be because I’ve been trained to be so self-reliant my whole life? It is so very rare that I ever get that sigh of…
Focusing Tip #630 – How can Focusing help with constant physical pain?
-Focusing Tip #630 – How can Focusing help with constant physical pain? Why would we want to focus more on our pain? Read on… Jackie writes: How can Focusing help with constant physical pain? When in pain I find it easier to cope by not focusing on it. Dear Jackie: I know what you mean. Constant physical pain is very hard, and it can be important to find ways of not focusing on the pain. One friend with chronic pain told me the only…
Focusing Tip #629 – “Just the idea of coming to a decision scares me.”
-Focusing Tip #629 – “Just the idea of coming to a decision scares me.” When even thinking about making that big decision makes your heart beat anxiously, what do you do? Read on… Sarah writes: One of your webinars was about taking decisions. As the exercise was going on, my heart started to beat thumpingly. What to do when you feel the problem is “the idea of coming to a decision”? Dear Sarah: When there is some decision that is hard to make, it…
Focusing Tip #628 – How much time does it take to feel some difference from Focusing?
-Focusing Tip #628 – How much time does it take to feel some difference from Focusing? What if you feel you have so much unprocessed stuff inside of you, it will take too long to change? Read on… A Reader writes: Since the first day of Focusing, I’ve become aware of a lot of unprocessed stuff within myself. I realized that some of it has been there for years – only I didn’t know what to do with it. The good news is that…
Focusing Tip #626 – When your trauma gets triggered by current events
-Focusing Tip #626 – When your trauma gets triggered by current events Are you suffering PTSD symptoms just from watching the news? Read on… Susanna writes: What’s going on this past week, with the US Senate Judiciary Committee hearings last Thursday, and all the reactions in social media and by commentators, has got me feeling so triggered. My mind is foggy, my fingers are numb, my heart is beating too fast, I’m jumpy… it’s like I’m having PTSD symptoms. I’d like to sort out…
Focusing Tip #626 – When your inner compass doesn’t work very well
-Focusing Tip #626 – When your inner compass doesn’t work very well When you try to consult your inner compass for your decisions, do you get confusing readings? Read on… Miro writes: In a Focusing course, I learned a technique of “inner compass” for decision-making – basically not to analyze your choices rationally, but rather to find individual felt senses about each of your alternatives. However, when I tried this out, I realized that I’m often getting a “stale felt sense” about some alternative…
Focusing Tip #625 – The timid and shy parts of you
-Focusing Tip #625 – The timid and shy parts of you Do you want to help the shy parts of you feel safe enough to speak? Read on… Michelle writes: I’m curious if you can say a few words about the parts in us that are timid and shy, afraid to speak, but so need to be heard. I’m aware of them from time to time, but I’m wondering if there is facilitative language that will help them feel more welcome and more willing…
Focusing Tip #624 – “Can you ‘overtrain’ Focusing? Do too much?”
-Focusing Tip #624 – “Can you ‘overtrain’ Focusing? Do too much?” When you don’t feel like doing Focusing, is that a ‘resistance’ to be worked with? Read on… Miro writes: Can you “overtrain” Focusing? I notice I often don’t feel like doing Focusing, especially if I did it yesterday. I seem to need a break between Focusing sessions which needs to last at least one day, or longer. Does this “resistance to Focusing” dissolve with time? Or do we have limited mental capacity to…
Focusing Tip #623 – Procrastination and negative beliefs
-Focusing Tip #623 – Procrastination and negative beliefs Are you procrastinating because a part of you believes your work is not good enough? Read on… Jim writes: I procrastinated for months on delivering a project to a client. Finally I got to it yesterday, and as I drove to his business I heard an inner voice saying “I don’t believe my work is good enough.” This didn’t feel like the critic. It felt like a belief. I tried to respond with an accepting “welcome”…
