Focusing Tip #557 – Do you feel stuck when you don’t know what to do with angry feelings?
“I say ‘something in me feels angry at XYZ’ and then I immediately feel stuck.” Suzanne wrote: I’ve been dealing with a…
Focusing Tip #556 – Do your therapy or coaching clients say they feel nothing?
“My clients seem to avoid feelings.” A psychotherapy intern asked me: Many of my clients seem to avoid feelings. When I ask…
Focusing Tip #555 – What can you do when feelings of anxiety are compounded by feelings of hating to feel that way?
“Not wanting to feel the anxiety usually makes it increase in intensity…” Monica writes: Anxiety seems to always be present in my…
Focusing Tip #554 – Does it work best to speak TO the various inner parts of you, or ABOUT them?
“At times I feel confused about how this language works…” Nancy writes: I think one of the most helpful aspects of Inner…
Focusing Tip #553 – What is the trouble with trying to understand why we feel how we feel?
“I have a lot of beliefs that if I understand why I feel something, that the understanding will bring relief.” Michelle writes:…
Focusing Tip #552 – “Could I really stop seeing myself negatively?”
What can help with those painful self-judgements about body image like ‘I am not beautiful’? Read on… A Reader writes: Can Focusing…
Focusing Tip #551 – “I am wondering if doing too much Focusing will make those parts resistant to change.”
Could trying to do too much Focusing create resistance to change? Bhavani writes: If an issue seems stuck, how often should one…
Focusing Tip #550 – Are some of our feelings and beliefs introjected from the outside, and if so, can we just get rid of them?
“The gagging is a not wanting of the most intense kind, and I tend to want to honor that.” Nancy writes: Sometimes…
Focusing Tip #549 – “Mistakes can happen to anyone, but can our felt senses keep us from turning them into even bigger mistakes?”
When you’re in public and something is not right (like Warren Beatty at the Oscars), what can you do? You might be…
Focusing Tip #548 – “When does the person fix the problem? Doesn’t she have to address her addictive behavior?”
“Even after a process that feels deep and profound, don’t I need to make a plan and decide to change?” A Reader…
