Focusing Tip #561 – A part of me is mean and emotionally abusive to me.
If an inner part of you sounds like your most judgmental parent, are you supposed to be nice to it? Daria writes:…
Focusing Tip #560 – Are there negative thoughts and feelings?
Labeling a thought or a feeling as “negative” is already a strategy for suppression. Julie writes: I was struck by your Tip…
Focusing Tip #559 – How do we work with ‘negative’ feelings without strengthening negative neural connections?
“Does Focusing emphasize negativity?” Bhavani writes: I have been watching a video from Rick Hansen where he says that focusing on negativity…
Focusing Tip #558 – The Art of Focusing with Grief
Dear Readers: My beloved mentor, Eugene Gendlin, has died. He died peacefully a few days ago, on May 1, at his home…
Focusing Tip #557 – Do you feel stuck when you don’t know what to do with angry feelings?
“I say ‘something in me feels angry at XYZ’ and then I immediately feel stuck.” Suzanne wrote: I’ve been dealing with a…
Focusing Tip #556 – Do your therapy or coaching clients say they feel nothing?
“My clients seem to avoid feelings.” A psychotherapy intern asked me: Many of my clients seem to avoid feelings. When I ask…
Focusing Tip #555 – What can you do when feelings of anxiety are compounded by feelings of hating to feel that way?
“Not wanting to feel the anxiety usually makes it increase in intensity…” Monica writes: Anxiety seems to always be present in my…
Focusing Tip #554 – Does it work best to speak TO the various inner parts of you, or ABOUT them?
“At times I feel confused about how this language works…” Nancy writes: I think one of the most helpful aspects of Inner…
Focusing Tip #553 – What is the trouble with trying to understand why we feel how we feel?
“I have a lot of beliefs that if I understand why I feel something, that the understanding will bring relief.” Michelle writes:…
Focusing Tip #552 – “Could I really stop seeing myself negatively?”
What can help with those painful self-judgements about body image like ‘I am not beautiful’? Read on… A Reader writes: Can Focusing…
