Focusing Tip #597 – How do you move from gentle empathic listening to energized action?
“The problem is, when I stop Focusing and go on doing my daily activities, I am still partially in that quiet state,…
Focusing Tip #596 – How do you feel when people talk about love?
“When everyone is talking about love it can awaken something in us that feels deeply alone… and that can be painful.” Dear…
Focusing Tip #595 – “Avoiding conflict is a core aspect of who I am…”
Are you so strongly identified with something that you’d be lying to say it’s just part of you? Bruce writes: This morning…
Focusing Tip #594 – “What good are my parts? They make my life miserable.”
Focusing involves spending time with different parts of you. But do those parts have value? Bhavani writes: After a year of experience…
Focusing Tip #593 – “I cannot understand why there’s still a traumatized vulnerable child within me…”
If you were traumatized by someone, why doesn’t the hurt and anger heal when that person starts treating you better? A Reader…
Focusing Tip #592 – Do you ever wonder why trying to fix yourself doesn’t work?
Michelle writes: I have been operating under the idea that I would recognize a shift from Focusing by having “a solution” to…
How to be a Perfect Imposter
You’ve got it all figured out. How you’re supposed to look, sound, dress. What are the acceptable hobbies and opinions. How smart…
Focusing Tip #591 – Have you ever tried to be like other people so they will like you?
A Reader writes: In my Focusing so far I’ve found out I’ve been trying to be like other people so they will…
Focusing Tip #590 – “My parts don’t tell me anything new.”
“A lot of the time in Focusing with a part I don’t hear anything new…” Charles writes: A lot of the time…
