Focusing Tip #946 – IRF + Decisions – “I don’t get clear answers”

What if you are looking for direction about the next steps in your life? Read on…

A Reader writes:

My life feels chaotic; so much is in transition and there are so many directions I could go in. I want to use Focusing to give me a sense of how to move forward. But when I try to ask my body about that, I don’t get any clear answers.

Dear Reader:

Probably the first step with Focusing would be to acknowledge how your life feels right now. Our next forward steps tend to emerge from how it is now.

The word “chaotic” is here. You might pause… feel in your body… and check if the word “chaotic” describes it well. Maybe there is more. Maybe there are other words that fit even better.

As you do that, you may discover a longing for this to change, a longing for things to feel smoother, clearer. Then you would acknowledge that as well.

Next, see if you have a sense of what those different directions are. Move to another place? Find a different job? Take a new training? It’s already a big step to be able to sort out these options.

You might pause with the list and sense how it feels to have those. If it feels like there are too many. Or if it feels like something is missing.

Now that you have identified these possibilities, pause and sense how each one of those feels in your body right now.

It’s important to be open to whatever comes. A perfectly clear answer is unlikely! Perhaps one will give you a sense of lightness, and one will feel dark and murky. Or maybe they just feel different from each other somehow.

With any big decision, you’ll want to repeat this process a number of times, along with doing research about your options. Step by step, the possible forward movement will emerge.

If you want more support with using IRF to make decisions, you might appreciate this course: