Should you explain to a part of you what it’s showing you didn’t happen to you? Read on…
Anne-Marie writes:
I was doing Focusing with a part of me that’s afraid my possessions will be taken away from me. It showed me images from my childhood, when this happened to someone else.
Should I tell this part that these experiences are not mine? Should I explain that this isn’t what is going to happen now? Or should I just keep listening?
Dear Anne-Marie:
Here’s what I think is going on here.
Parts often communicate in metaphors… and even a memory can be a kind of metaphor. By showing you a painful memory (even one that happened to someone else), the part is saying “What I’m scared of is like this.”
It’s afraid you’ll have to go through something like that. And it’s showing you, because many parts communicate more easily in pictures than in words.
I remember a Focusing session where a part showed the Focuser’s head being chopped off. It turned out the part was afraid that something was going to happen that was like getting one’s head chopped off, as bad as that. (Parts can also be quite dramatic.)
So no, there is no need to tell the part that that isn’t your past. It knows that.
What it needs you to hear is that it is scared of something like that happening to you now.
So yes, keep listening. Listen to that. Let it know you hear that it doesn’t want you to go through something like that. And then stay with it.
I’d suggest sensing what it does want for you. A sense of security, maybe?
I predict the part will be glad to be heard… and when it is heard, it will change.
