What if you find it hard to stay with one thing you’re feeling? Read on…
A Reader writes:
I’m just starting to learn Focusing, and I have a question. I see other people finding one felt sense and staying with it, but I keep moving around from one thing to another. I never seem to settle on one thing. Am I doing it right?
Dear Reader:
Being aware of a number of “somethings” in the body is one way to start a Focusing session. That’s OK. Your process wants you to be aware of this one… and this one… and this one. All of them are important somehow.
So you can accept that evidently all of them are important, and you say Hello to each one.
This may go on for a while as you establish the practice of accepting whatever comes, wherever it shows itself.
But there is a next step… Not because you have run out of new things to say Hello to, but because you have an inner sense that your process is ready for that next step.
The next step would be to say to yourself inwardly, “And which of all these needs for me to stay longer with it right now?” And then wait, sensing.
You might find that your awareness moves to one place. Or you might find that all of them except one fade away, as if saying, “OK, you go first.”
From that point you can go on to being the compassionate listener to that one place or part of you.
You’ll probably find that the other ones show up later to have a turn, or perhaps you’ll find that all of them were actually connected somehow.
It’s all a great example of trusting the process!
