Is it hard to keep up when people speak quickly and opinions are flying around? Read on…
Aleena writes:
I read your email about how you and Barbara McGavin used Focusing to write your new book.
It made me realize this is what I am doing when expressing myself in writing: feeling, groping for words and checking the words back with the feelings. And in this way I not only express myself in writing, but often in conversations also.
I am no good at debates where opinions are flying around in high speed.
At times I’ve criticized myself for being that slow. But now I see there is nothing wrong with me. I just need time to check in with my unclear felt sense about things, and my inner sense of rightness won’t let me push all kinds of hollow phrases into the world. And though it means that in this speedy world I often don’t fit in, I now can feel that I am okay the way I am. Thank you.
Dear Aleena:
I’m sharing your email here even though it didn’t have a question, just because I love what you say, and I think it can be inspirational to others.
I’m sure you are not alone in feeling like you don’t fit in this speedy world, especially when opinions are flying around. I myself have felt that way for a long time.
Focusing lets us understand that “slow is the new fast,” as we say, because the slower you go in your process of awareness, the deeper you can go.
When we pause and allow our own feelings and original thoughts to form, we live more authentically and we can connect more deeply with others as well.
I hope that anyone who feels that your way of being is not okay because it doesn’t match the prevailing speedy style can read this and be reassured that you are doing fine. All is well.
And anyone who is feeling stressed today… Slow down! Pause, breathe, look around. Let your eye fall on something beautiful… and take it in. I promise your day will go better!
