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Focusing Tip #806 – Focusing works even without Parts
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #806 – Focusing works even without Parts Can we do Inner Relationship Focusing without talking about parts? Read on… Grace writes: I work with someone who doesn’t like to say “something in me” because she feels deeply that she is a unified whole, and doesn’t relate to parts language. How can Inner Relationship Focusing work for people if they are allergic to thinking they have parts? Dear Grace: In my experience, talking as if we have parts actually helps us be more…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #805 – “Can we name our Parts?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #805 – “Can we name our Parts?” Does it help to name our parts if we meet them again and again? Read on… Amanda writes: I really liked your answer last week because I feel very comfortable saying “part of me.” But I am wondering about taking it a step further and naming our “recurring characters” or finding an image for them. Personally I can find it very reassuring to greet an old friend (like an inner critic, worrier, pleaser, etc). But…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #804 – What about saying “part of me”?
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #804 – What about saying “part of me”? When does “part of me” work better than “something in me”? Read on… Stephanie writes: Thanks for your Tip last week. I must admit there’s a part of me that doesn’t feel comfy with the “something in me” words either. I always say “a part of me.” It doesn’t feel good to me to call parts of myself things. A long time ago now I had vivid dreams about my little girl inside being…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #803 – Not everyone likes to say “something in me”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #803 – Not everyone likes to say “something in me” What do you do when someone doesn’t want to say “something in me”? Read on… A Reader writes: A friend of mine called me to vent her feelings of anger at her mom’s boyfriend — who I have to agree would make anybody furious. I just listened for a long time, but when my friend started telling me how sick she was of being angry, I ventured to suggest that she might…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #802 – Focusing with climate fears
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #802 – Focusing with climate fears How do we help someone do Focusing with legitimate fears, like about climate change? Read on… Krisztina writes: My questions concerns climate fears. If a client comes (and they do!) saying they are terrified that their kids will have unimaginable suffering from climate change, what can I say to them? Based on the research, their fears are really valid. As a human being, I share the same fears. How can I guide them if this fear…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #801 – How Focusing helps develop the sense of self
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #801 – How Focusing helps develop the sense of self How can you develop the ability to give compassion and care to yourself? Read on… Jenni writes: Can Focusing be helpful in developing a (bigger) sense of self, when you have a lack of self-development due to childhood trauma or developmental trauma? I totally get that Focusing helps and is beneficial in contacting old/currents parts. I just wonder if and if so how that works into the further development of self. Dear…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #800 – “I got stuck when I couldn’t move my grief.”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #800 – “I got stuck when I couldn’t move my grief.” What if your grief feels immovable and untouchable? Read on… Ieva writes: My question is about “clearing space” when you are grieving. Seven years ago my youngest daughter tragically died at age 22. I discovered Focusing and found it very helpful. However, when I’m “clearing space” I get stuck by not being able to remove my grief for my little girl, not even for a short moment. It sits there like…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #799 – “Can I do Focusing with strong feelings as they come up?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #799 – “Can I do Focusing with strong feelings as they come up?” Is Focusing with strong emotions something I can do all day, or just at special times? Read on… Cathy writes: If I’m using Focusing with strong emotions, do I need to find quiet and really focus on the emotions — or can I do it in my daily life as I notice feelings come up? I guess what I mean is, can I chat to my feelings in my…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #798 – “Can the Focusing process re-traumatize me?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #798 – “Can the Focusing process re-traumatize me?” What is happening if you bring attention to a painful feeling and it feels worse? Read on… A Reader writes: Sometimes when I do Focusing, I feel like it makes my painful feelings more intense, and I feel worse afterward. Can the Focusing process re-traumatize me? Or my clients? Dear Reader: Yes, it can happen that painful feelings become more intense when we bring awareness to them. Imagine someone quietly suffering. No one has…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #797 – “I don’t know if this is coming from my body or my head.”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #797 – “I don’t know if this is coming from my body or my head.” How can you tell where the words or images are coming from? Read on… A Reader writes: Thank you for last week’s Tip where the person asked about “the feeling that I’m making it all up.” I’m new to Focusing, and sometimes I just can’t tell, when I get a word or an image, where did this come from? From my head? From my body? Yesterday I…
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