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Focusing Tip #796 – “What if I’m making it all up?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #796 – “What if I’m making it all up?” What can you do if you start to feel like you’re making it all up? Read on… A reader writes: Just when I feel like I might be getting somewhere with my Focusing process, I’m overcome with the feeling that I’m making this all up, and I get a strong impulse to just quit doing such a “silly thing” as Focusing. I guess this must be a part of me, but I don’t…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #795 – When you go blank when you’re Focusing
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #795 – When you go blank when you’re Focusing… What does it mean when you’re in the middle of Focusing and suddenly you go blank? Read on… Barb writes: Last week you wrote about feelings of sleepiness during Focusing as “something in me is sending sleepiness.” Feels like a powerful way to get to more! I wonder: is this true of everything? Something of me is sending: critical voices, feelings of shame, terror, etc? Dear Barb: Let’s see… What are the phenomena…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #794 – Getting sleepy while going deep with Focusing
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #794 – Getting sleepy while going deep with Focusing What can you do when you suddenly become very sleepy while doing Focusing? Read on… Rebecca writes: I do weekly Focusing with a partner who routinely comes up against a heavy blanket of sleepiness that threatens to derail the process by lulling her to sleep. I would love some advice on ways to support a Focuser in acknowledging and engaging with this part without falling under its spell. Dear Rebecca: I remember the…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #793 – Why change the way we talk about our feelings?
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #793 – Why change the way we talk about our feelings? Is there a way of speaking about your feelings that makes them easier to feel and get to know better? Read on… Elizabeth writes: I listened to a webinar by you, and you recommended saying “I sense the presence of anger within.” That seems awkward; is it really necessary? I wanted to say, about myself, “She’s angry.” But that seems like dissociation. Dear Elizabeth: Allow me to gently suggest that you…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #792 – Felt sensing versus intuition
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #792 – Felt sensing versus intuition Do you wonder if Focusing is a kind of intuition? Read on… Jenna writes: What’s the difference between a felt sense and intuition? Or are they the same thing? Dear Jenna: What is intuition? Let’s say we define it as a kind of knowing that comes to us by non-logical means. “How did you know your friend needed a phone call?” we might ask. “I don’t know, I just did.” Often “intuition” refers to what we…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #791 – “What does Focusing add to meditation?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #791 – “What does Focusing add to meditation?” Do you wonder how Focusing compares to meditation? Read on… Penny writes: I’ve heard something about Focusing and I’m wondering: how is Focusing different from meditation practice or other similar mind exploration techniques? Dear Penny: So many people have been helped by meditation! Let’s describe meditation as a kind of open, spacious awareness where feelings and thoughts can arise and pass away without you becoming attached to them. In Focusing, you still have an…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #790 – “So much stress, so many blocks, so much overwhelming feeling…”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #790 – “So much stress, so many blocks, so much overwhelming feeling…” How can you track your feelings when there are just too many of them, and all overwhelming? Read on… Camilla writes: I get that Focusing starts with simply sensing how we feel. But is there any “clue” we can look for when there is so much stress, so many blocks, so much overwhelming feeling, that we cannot even track one feeling or emotion or sensation? Dear Camilla: I like to…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #789 – “I’m getting more distant from non-Focusing friends”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #789 – “I’m getting more distant from non-Focusing friends” Do you avoid telling your problems to your friends—for good reason? Read on… Sarah writes: I’ve been doing Focusing for several years now and I’ve noticed that it’s changed the kinds of things I feel like talking about with many of my non-Focusing friends. I especially steer clear of talking to them about my tough issues because I know that it will not be helpful. It never really was helpful, but I didn’t…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #788 – “My negative thoughts about others are beyond my control”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #788 – “My negative thoughts about others are beyond my control” If you judge others negatively and you don’t want to, what can you do? Read on… Jannes writes: I’ve realized that when I’m outside and my eyes fall on another person, my inner judge jumps at them with negative thoughts about what kind of person this is. I try to push these thoughts away but not very successfully. I don’t want to think about people this way, but the thoughts seem…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #787 – Stepping into feelings of strength and capability
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #787 – Stepping into feelings of strength and capability Are all our feelings really parts of us, even the positive ones? Read on… A Reader writes: As I was Focusing, I contacted a part of me that felt calm, strong, and capable. Later I was Focusing with some difficult feelings, and I decided to call back that strong, capable part of me at the end of the session. Was that OK to do? Dear Reader: It’s a great idea to begin and…
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