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Focusing Tip #786 – “What’s the best way to find a Focusing partner?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #786 – “What’s the best way to find a Focusing partner?” Do you want to know how to find a Focusing partner and what to do when you’ve got one? Read on… Min writes: After reading your Tip from last week on the value of a Focusing partner, I want to ask you: Can you give me some pointers as to how to find a good Focusing partner? And what do you do with a Focusing partner? Dear Min: The first place…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #785 – “Why does everyone say I have to have a Focusing partner?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #785 – “Why does everyone say I have to have a Focusing partner?” Do you wonder if you have to have a Focusing partner to do Focusing? Read on… A Reader writes: I’ve been looking for a Focusing program and they all say I have to be a Focusing partner. Why is there such an emphasis on Focusing partnership? I just want to learn and do Focusing myself. Dear Reader: Focusing is for everyone. As Mary Hendricks Gendlin says, “Focusing belongs to…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #784 – Feeling paralyzed by painful regrets
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #784 – Feeling paralyzed by painful regrets Do you ever have the thought that you should have done better? Read on… Min writes: I often have the thought, “I should have done it better and then this wouldn’t be happening to me.” It is a devastating thought to me. It paralyzes me and makes me depressed. I tried Focusing with this but the pain is so strong that I can’t even say hello to it. Or if I do manage to say…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #783 – “What do I do with overwhelming dread and fear?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #783 – “What do I do with overwhelming dread and fear?” What can you do when you’ve been hit with some scary news? Read on… Deb writes: Last week’s Tip on physical health was so timely. I found out today I need to get a breast biopsy. I am a Covid-fatigued second grade teacher who has a senior in high school. I do not have time for this! I was maintaining until this biopsy came up. I am struggling with being able…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #782 – Can Focusing help improve physical health?
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #782 – Can Focusing help improve physical health? A Reader writes: I wonder if Focusing can help me improve my physical health. Dear Reader: Yes! There are a number of ways that Focusing can help you improve your physical health. ONE. With Focusing, you become more attentive and sensitive to your body’s messages. For example, I can tell immediately when certain foods affect my digestion or my mood. One woman detected her own lung cancer at a very early stage (when it…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #781 – A question about desires
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #781 – a question about desires Do you feel like you’d better give up on getting what you long for? Read on… Cori writes: I have a question about desires. For a long time I’ve wanted to improve my life in specific ways, but without success. My inner critic says, “It’s over. You will never get it now. It’s too late. The only way to be happy is to stop wanting.” Another part of me believes the inner critic, that my chances…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #780 – “I tell myself I look disgusting with extra weight”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #780 – “I tell myself I look disgusting with extra weight” Are you trying to change some unhealthy habits? Read on… A Reader writes: I’m trying to let go of this extra weight I’ve put on, yet I seem to lose my willpower and eat the wrong things whenever I’m bored or depressed. Which is often, these days. I put a recent photo of myself looking disgusting on the refrigerator but it didn’t help. Dear Reader: I know that pattern so well,…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #779 – “I’m late for everything. Do you have a tip for that?”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #779 – “I’m late for everything. Do you have a tip for that?” Do you wish you were better at being on time? Read on… Carol writes: Last week you gave a tip to someone whose partner is always late. What if you are the person who is always late? Because I am that person. Even though Focusing is very valuable and helpful, I’m late for my Focusing appointments. I tend to be late to everything! Do you have a Tip for…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #778 – “My Focusing partner is always late”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #778 – “My Focusing partner is always late” If a person in your life is always late, and you are always on time, can this relationship be saved? Read on… Bea writes: I’ve had a weekly Focusing partner for seven years. We have a big difference about time. I like to start at the time agreed, but she is always about ten minutes late. I can feel something in me that has a terrible feeling of not being worthwhile, and this partner’s…
Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #777 – “I long to be able to sleep better.”
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing Tip #777 – “I long to be able to sleep better.” Are you tired in the morning because of anxious thoughts at night? Read on… A Reader writes: So much is coming at us from all sides these days, it’s definitely affecting my sleep. My mind is so active at bedtime, mostly with anxious worries, that I’m having a hard time falling asleep. I wake up in the morning feeling tired, and that’s a bad way to start my day. I long to…
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