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Aug 22 2006
- by Ann Weiser CornellHow Do I Start Focusing without Awkwardness? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Marti from Illinois writes: “I’m focusing by phone with someone each week. When one of us dials up the other, there’s an awkwardness about how to begin. In other phone connections, I’d “chitchat” a bit before getting down to the business we’ve called about, like easing ourselves into it. But with Focusing, this feels like a wrong direction, like we’d begin approaching our weeks’ experiences from a left brain way and then, perhaps, not be able to hear our bodies’ honest truths as well. It feels awkward to jump right into Focusing…
Ann Weiser CornellAug 15 2006
- by Ann Weiser CornellThanks to all of you who responded to our call for Burning Questions about Focusing! We have a rich array of questions to respond to in future issues of Weekly Tips… and the offer is still open! Send in your Burning Questions (or even your lukewarm questions!) and they will get responses… Our theme this week is starting a Focusing session, especially if an active mind is keeping us away from the body. Read on! Ann Weiser Cornell How Do Get Calm Enough to Start Focusing? ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Suzanne from Quebec writes: “I would like to know your point of view…
Ann Weiser CornellAug 8 2006
- by Ann Weiser CornellYour Burning Question about Focusing ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ This week the Weekly Tips newsletter just wants to listen to you. What are you MOST wanting to know about Focusing? Are you a beginner who wants to know what it’s all about? Perhaps how Focusing is like or unlike some other method? Or how it can be useful for some particular problem area? Or are you a person who’s had some Focusing training and wants to know more about how to apply it, how to live it, how to get back to it… or how to offer it to others? Do Let Us…
Ann Weiser CornellAug 1 2006
- by Ann Weiser Cornell“I Used to Do Focusing…” ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I’m lucky. I’m unlikely to get “out of practice” at Focusing, because it weaves its way through my life. But I do have a sense of how easy it would be to get out of practice with Focusing, because I am trying to learn German, and if I don’t do something with it every other day, it slips away. So of course Focusing is like that, because it’s not only a totally natural way of being–it’s also a skill like playing the piano or doing tai chi or speaking a new language. With practice,…
Ann Weiser CornellJuly 25 2006
- by Ann Weiser CornellFinding Treasure in Relationships… ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Recently a reporter called me up for a quote for an article on “loving the one you’re with.” There’s a tendency these day for people in relationships to blame the problems on the other person, and even to be on the lookout for a replacement. It’s not always easy to stay with the person you’ve got! Why is that… and how can Focusing help? To see our problems as caused by outside forces is a symptom of a mechanistic worldview. We’re conditioned to look for “fixes” as if we and our relationships had interchangeable parts.…
Ann Weiser CornellJuly 18 2006
- by Ann Weiser CornellThe Part that Doesn’t Want To One of my very favorite uses for Focusing is when I feel stuck in doing some action. There’s something I want to do… but I just don’t do it. In the old days this “procrastination” and the self-criticism about it would dominate my life. It was like walking around in a dark cloud of bad feeling about all the undone “stuff.” I learned that the key to working with any blocked action was to invite a body sense of “The Part that Doesn’t Want To” — and listen to ITS point of view. That…
Ann Weiser CornellJuly 11 2006
- by Ann Weiser Cornell“I Don’t Want to Know” After last week’s newsletter on hearing the inner voice, I received an email from someone who said, “I’m afraid to listen to my inner voice.” Interesting, but not uncommon. I think many of us feel that way from time to time. I know I have. There could be all kinds of reasons for this. Maybe something in you is afraid that your inner voice is going to ask you to change your life in a way that not all of you is ready for. “If I listen, I’ll have to do it.” This is interesting,…
Ann Weiser CornellJuly 4 2006
- by Ann Weiser Cornell“So What is Focusing Anyway?” I used to dread that question. For all my experience as a Focusing teacher, the one time I felt totally blank about Focusing was when someone asked me, So what is Focusing anyway? Last night I had the experience again, out at a Thai restaurant with a group that included a bright 15-year-old. The question was inevitable — I was even wearing a Focusing t-shirt! “Focusing is a process of awareness,” I said. “It’s a way of tuning in to yourself, knowing yourself better, listening to what you really know about how you feel and…
Ann Weiser CornellJune 27 2006
- by Ann Weiser CornellThe Tears are Too Close Recently I heard from someone who didn’t want to do Focusing because she felt too close to a vulnerable side of her, too close to tears. She was afraid that if she sat down to do Focusing, the vulnerable part of her would “flood” her. There are parts of us that can flood us. This is like saying that — at those times, in relation to those situations — our sense of Self in Presence isn’t strong enough to be a steady container for those feelings. So what’s needed is to cultivate and strengthen Presence.…
Ann Weiser CornellJune 20 2006
- by Ann Weiser CornellThe Recipe for “Stuck” Do you ever feel stuck when you’re Focusing? Do you ever feel stuck in your life? The answer to both is the same, something I often say to my students: The recipe for “stuck” is an unacknowledged part. Whenever you find yourself saying “I feel stuck,” let that be a signal to look for something in you that’s not being acknowledged. Probably it’s the very part of you that is calling your experience “stuck”! Talia was Focusing, spending time with a feeling of heaviness in her stomach. She had acknowledged it, described it (“heaviness like a…
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