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January 17 2006
- by Ann Weiser CornellImages and Focusing, Part Two In response to last week’s Weekly Tips on Images and Focusing, I received a very helpful email from Dana Ganihar, a life coach and Focuser who lives in New Jersey. She is very familiar with images from her own process. First, responding to what is commonly offered as a way to work with images in Focusing: “How does that image feel in the body?” Though often used, this may not be a good idea! Dana writes: What I would usually get in response is the ‘feeling about the feeling’ – how something in me feels…
Ann Weiser CornellJanuary 10 2006
- by Ann Weiser CornellImages and Focusing What’s the connection between images and Focusing? I’ve had beginners say to me: “I don’t know if I’ll be good at Focusing because I don’t get images easily.” And I explain that there’s no problem there; Focusing is not a process that requires imagery. In fact, images can BE a problem for a new Focuser! Why? Because there is a way of having images that can take us away from a felt sense instead of connecting us with it. If images are in the body, body-located, then we’re OK. But if the focuser is seeing the images…
Ann Weiser CornellJanuary 3 2006
- by Ann Weiser CornellTurning Over a New Calendar Page What do I want my life to be like in 2006? Where do I want to put my energy… What is calling to me… What areas need to be put into shape… Where do I feel excitement and “fresh air”…. ? A fresh new year is a great time to do some Focusing, sensing inward for what is needed and wanted, what feels like a direction of rightness. Of one thing we can be sure: there will be surprises. Many things cannot be planned or predicted. But felt sensing what is wanted is not…
Ann Weiser CornellDecember 27 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellIs it possible to have self-improvement without self-criticism? And wouldn’t it be lovely if it were? The Trouble with New Year’s Resolutions For many of us, the turning of the calendar to a new year is a time for turning over a new leaf in our life as well. We see this time of year as a chance to begin again with new “resolutions” for our behavior and habits in the year to come. But often this urge to reformation is driven by an inner sense of wrongness. “I’m fat.” “I’m out of shape.” “I need to get out of…
Ann Weiser CornellDecember 20 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing and Gift Shopping Around this time of year many of us buy more gifts for more people than at any other time of year. That’s true for me, anyway. And I love the feeling that comes when I find just the right gift for that person, and see their face light up, or get interested… I used to be a terrible gift shopper. Something in me would get anxious and I’d buy the first thing remotely suitable, just to have it over with. This year I’m reflecting on how gift buying feels to me now, and what has changed.…
Ann Weiser CornellDecember 13 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellMore on Focusing in the Midst of Life Last week in Weekly Tips I wrote about the possibility of Focusing in the midst of life — when having a conversation with my daughter, or in a business meeting. I talked about taking time to feel my body’s contact with what I’m sitting on, and how that helps me get in touch with what I feel in those situations. That brought some questions for Weekly Tips reader Edwin Holloway: “Do you do this while holding the issue in awareness simultaneously? And, what if what comes suggests something that’s not easy to…
Ann Weiser CornellDecember 6 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellThe Fastest Way to Get Back to Myself All day long I encounter situations that need me to be in touch with myself. I need to be centered for a conversation with my daughter. Or I’m making a business decision–shall I offer a new type of workshop? Or someone I don’t know well asks me for a favor. I want to be in touch with myself for such situations–knowing how I feel, what I want, how the other person or circumstance is impacting me. I’ve found that the fastest, surest way to get back to myself, no matter what is…
Ann Weiser CornellNovember 29 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing allows us to be a friend to a part of us that is in pain. “Something in Me” Doesn’t Want the Pain Chronic pain can be stressful and preoccupying, and seriously decrease our quality of life. I can’t promise you that Focusing can make your pain go away. But Focusing can help you shift remarkably your relationship with the place in you that has to bear the pain… and in the process, the pain may shift as well. Even to be able to be with a chronic pain at all, we’ll probably first need to acknowledge all the feelings…
Ann Weiser CornellNovember 22 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing allows us to experience physical symptoms in a different way. “I Bumped My Toe!” People think I’m strange. When I’m out walking, and I bump my toe or bang my knee on something, I stop, hold still, and close my eyes. My friends have learned to wait, and not worry. What am I doing? I’m bringing awareness to the place that hurts, just sensing it as it is, right now. Just allowing the feeling to be there, and taking the time it needs. At first it feels worse, and there’s a temptation to move on and try to ignore…
Ann Weiser CornellNovember 15 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing is a fresh entering into our experience of life and situations, right now, just as we are. Describing Not Labeling Imagine that I’m asking you to close your eyes and hold out your hands. A surprise? Don’t peek! You feel something being placed in your hands… an object of some kind. Notice what it feels like… soft? cool? smooth or rough? Notice if it’s possible to keep describing it without trying to say WHAT the object is. Hard to do? Yes, if you’re like the students in my latest Path to Lasting Change, Part One workshop who tried this…
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