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August 30 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellLiving a Focusing life means living in process… Tips for Focusing Alone One thing that can help your Focusing alone is to say hello first to everything that is in the way of Focusing alone. These don’t need to be distractions, they can each be “doorways” into a deeper process. Instead of struggling with the annoying construction noise in the street, you may find yourself going deeper into an exploration of how you are when such things happen. Tips for Focusing with a Partner My motto for Focusing partnership is: Empowered Focuser, Relaxed Companion. The more the Focuser (the one…
Ann Weiser CornellAugust 23 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellLiving a Focusing life means encountering each moment freshly, understanding that we have never encountered this moment and all it means ever before! Tips for Focusing Alone This week: the final of three ways of using art materials to support your Focusing alone. This is a nice one for people who don’t like to draw! You might have heard of this one from other contexts, it’s called Mind Mapping. Start with one word or phrase that you want this Focusing session to be about. Then write it in the center of a white sheet of paper. (Larger paper might be…
Ann Weiser CornellAugust 16 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellLiving a Focusing life means understanding that the categories with which we understand the world are just approximations of what we directly encounter, and if we choose to, we can stand face-to-face what what is real: the here-and-now felt experience. Tips for Focusing Alone This week: the second of three ways of using art materials to support your Focusing alone. This one is called: Sketching the story of the session. Draw (sketch, doodle) a quick picture of the felt situation. So if you’re sensing that the situation you’re Focusing on “feels like being on stage,” you would draw a little…
Ann Weiser CornellAugust 9 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellLiving a Focusing life means bringing awareness to how you are. Your body is always ready to give you a felt sense of the situation you’re in. Like a wise inner guide who’s always with you! Questions? Anything about Focusing? Just email me at awcornel@pacbell.net and I’ll address your question in future posts. Tips for Focusing Alone We’re going to talk about three ways of using art materials to support your Focusing alone. This week, the first way: Drawing your felt sense. If your felt sense has a visual quality, a shape, a color, you can draw it, and then…
Ann Weiser CornellAugust 2 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellTips for Focusing Alone For the final session of the Focusing Alone course I ask everyone to find some sheets of white paper, the larger the better, and colored pens or crayons or colored pencils or water colors. People are often astonished at how helpful these are for Focusing alone. Not everyone feels this way, but you might be one of the people whose Focusing is facilitated by working art supplies. Starting next week I’ll talk about the three ways I know about to use this kind of material to support Focusing. And in the meantime, you might want to…
Ann Weiser CornellJuly 26 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellTips for Focusing Alone Participants in my current Focusing Alone phone class have been telling me how much easier it is to Focus alone when they start with an issue or a topic. It gives a sense of groundedness. So let’s talk about that. There are two approaches to a Focusing session. One is to have an issue in mind–maybe a decision you’re making, a relationship issue that’s troubling you, a puzzling block like “Why can’t I make that phone call?”–and the other is to have no issue, just bringing awareness inward and being open to what arises. If Focusing…
Ann Weiser CornellJuly 19 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing is inner listening, inner respect, inner welcome. Tips for Focusing Alone Do you deserve to pay attention to yourself? Is it all right to take time to simply listen to how you’re doing right now? If there is any part of you that doubts that, then that might be a great topic for some Focusing! This is often the sort of part that comes up just as we are sitting down for a nice session of Focusing alone. You don’t have to merge with it or believe it… just say hello to it! Tips for Focusing with a Partner…
Ann Weiser CornellJuly 12 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellMay Focusing be a constant friend to you in all that you do. Of course, the real friend is your own self–and Focusing lets you be deeply in touch with that trustworthy guide. Tips for Focusing Alone Last night I started a new Focusing Alone phone class and some great new tips came from the participants. Here’s one: to hold something in your hand while Focusing alone, and squeeze it when you feel yourself drifting away from your body. Another one: gently touch, with an open palm, the place in your body where you feel something. That touch communicates that…
Ann Weiser CornellJuly 5 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellIt’s so great to be living a Focusing life! Tips for Focusing Alone Last week I mentioned that often people report that their biggest difficulty with Focusing is sitting down to do it. Don’t let Focusing be something else that you try to “make” yourself do! That way lies resistance and impasse. For Focusing, we need Presence… and in Presence, we have no need to make ourselves do anything. Instead of “I should do some Focusing,” try saying, “Let me check if something inside is WANTING some Focusing… wanting some gentle interested attention…” When you do that, guess what? You’re…
Ann Weiser CornellJune 28 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellSummer is here, and in Berkeley we’re having the typical Northern California summer: cold! I’m looking forward to teaching my five Focusing Levels this month, in the usual reverse order: 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. You know why I schedule them that way, right? Yes, it’s so nobody can take them too quickly! If it’s been more than 2 1/2 months since you took your last Focusing Level workshop, maybe you’re ready for the next one…. Tips for Focusing Alone Q: When is a good time for Focusing alone? A: Whenever you want or need to give yourself some kind…
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