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June 21 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellAs you read this I am flying from England back to California, having completed two Treasure Maps to the Soul workshops in Wales. The next one: Greece at the end of September! Tips for Focusing Alone We’ve been talking about speaking out loud as a support for Focusing Alone. What about talking into a tape recorder? Absolutely! It gives you a good excuse for talking out loud, even if you never listen later, and it’s almost as if you’re talking to your future self. Or make the tape for your Focusing partner… and imagine them there, listening, as you record…
Ann Weiser CornellJune 14 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellAs you read this I am teaching Treasure Maps to the Soul at the lovely Plas Taliaris Center in Llandeilo, Wales. What a great life! Tips for Focusing Alone Last week I talked about speaking out loud as a support to Focusing alone. You might be wondering, What do I say? First, give yourself suggestions as if you were about to do them or doing them now. For example: “I’ll say hello to it.” or “I’m saying hello to it.” I find this really keeps me on track. I’ve provided a link just below to a page compiled by the…
Ann Weiser CornellJune 7 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellYou may have noticed I missed last week… I was at the wonderful 17th Annual International Focusing Conference, reveling in the company of hundreds of other Focusers. I’m convinced that Focusing brings out the best in people! Tips for Focusing Alone It made all the difference to me when I realized I could speak out loud while Focusing alone. Without speaking out loud, my thoughts would go off in six different directions at top speed. But when I speak, I’m slowing down and selecting something to give my attention to. Did you ever notice when you’re counting a number of…
Ann Weiser CornellMay 24 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellI want to send out a special appreciation to all of you who came to my Book Launch Party last Saturday night. It was so great to see so many people interested in Focusing and community — and The Radical Acceptance of Everything! Tips for Focusing Alone One of the wonderful things about Focusing alone is that you have the Focusing process with you whenever you need it. Here’s a little exercise. After you read your mail… or your email… or listen to your voicemail messages… pause for a few minutes and bring your awareness to your body sense. Sometimes…
Ann Weiser CornellMay 17 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellWith Focusing, you are with yourself, aligned with how you are, in touch and in the moment. Where truth is. Tips for Focusing Alone At the beginning of the Focusing process, it is valuable to acknowledge everything that calls for your attention. Especially acknowledge whatever seems to be a distraction. If you’re Focusing in a noisy spot, struggling not to be distracted by traffic or construction or someone’s voice, acknowledge the distraction, as well as something in you that’s annoyed, irritated… by the noise. My own experience with this is that the noise seems to melt away! Tips for Focusing…
Ann Weiser CornellMay 10 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing is deep listening, sinking into the present moment, how it is for you right now. There is a whole Universe in this here and now! Have a question you’d like me to address in these weekly tips? Just email it to me at awcornel@pacbell.net and I’ll be happy to include it. Tips for Focusing Alone When we move from the pace of daily life into a Focusing space, this is a shift in mode of attention. Usually, for most of us, daily life is fast-paced and our attention is pulled in many directions, while the Focusing process invites us…
Ann Weiser CornellMay 3 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellAs a participant in last weekend’s Path to Lasting Change, Part One said, “What’s so marvelous about this process is that you can be the listener and let your body speak.” Marvelous indeed! Tips for Focusing Alone This week I’m mailing out a great article by Kay Hoffmann on “Solo Focusing” to the subscribers to the Focusing Connection newsletter. (Print!) Kay did a study of the blocks to Focusing alone, and found that the biggest problem is not getting into Presence… and thus getting merged with various parts of us that are wanting to be distracted, feeling impatient, and so…
Ann Weiser CornellApril 26 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellFocusing is not just a method or a technique — it is a way of being. It’s a way of being with yourself in such a way that you sense the whole of what you’re going through. Sensing the whole of it — the “felt sense” of it — lets you have it in a way that being in the middle of it doesn’t allow. As Gendlin used to say when I was helping him teach: “You can’t smell the soup if you stick your head in it!” We laughed… but in the years since then that statement has become…
Ann Weiser CornellApril 19 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellHow do we know when we need to do Focusing? My answer: I need to focus when I start feeling pressured or overwhelmed by any part of my life, or when I start to feel a kind of inner “indigestion” — too much is unprocessed — or when I get a sore throat! What’s YOUR way to know? It’s good to get to know the signs… Tips for Focusing Alone Once you sit down to Focus Alone, you’ll be taking some time to being your awareness into your body, and then inviting a sense of what wants your awareness now.…
Ann Weiser CornellApril 12 2005
- by Ann Weiser CornellThis weekly email newsletter is offered to support your Focusing process. Focusing is a different way of being from most of the cultural messages around us… so we need all the support we can get! Tips for Focusing Alone One of the things that people found most helpful in the recent Focusing Alone phone class was the suggestion to take your time to choose and prepare the place where you will sit for your Focusing. I gave people the assignment to take five minutes before starting the Focusing session, to sense into and find the just-right spot to sit. It…
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